Leadership Education: Exactly HOW Do I Do It?

This past Saturday, I participated in a conference call for people interested in Leadership Education.  A condensed description of the call went something like this:

“Teri Helms of TommyMom.com will discuss “How Do You Do It?” focusing on Four Keys: Classics, Mentors, Inspire and You”

Whew!  This looks great on paper, doesn’t it?

Most everything in life does.

And then you get to live it out.

That’s where things can sometimes get tricky.

Admittedly, Leadership Education is fascinating, intriguing…

interesting.

Most things that are outside of the box are!

One thing that really remains true, however…

is the fact that you simply can’t tell someone “how to do it!”

It is the acknowledgment and implementation of principles…

that are the tenets…

pillars…

foundations, if you will…

to a way of life.

And each life utilizing them is different.

If I “tell you how to do it”…

then you are equipped to “copy” me.

Scary thought, I know!

The more effective route to go, in seeking an answer to a very common question…

would be to examine what universally defines Leadership Education.

I mean…

how do we think that diversity…

such as has been highlighted in the mothering journeys…

of Katherine McCauley and Amy Maus…

arrive at the same goal?…

Share any form of commonality…

other than being human?!

We’re going look at some thoughts offered by…

the “Obi-Wans” of Thomas Jefferson Education.

They certainly aren’t the only qualified mentors…

but…

in my opinion…

and experience…

they are the most organic in their approach.

This helps everyone…

wherever they are on the journey…

to have a clear cut…

no “bells and whistles” framework…

for defining their own family, as well as personal, journeys.

Obi-Wan #1

and Obi-Wan #2

Which brings me to point number one.

The mentality of Leadership Education holds to the fact…

that everyone is created with genius.

It is the job of the mentor to help bring that genius to the forefront of the individual.

The mentor helps the student through inspiration…

to develop and channel independence effectively.

People are wired for independence.

Mentoring takes on many different forms.

You can read..

listen…

experience through physical presence.

I am fortunate to have had all three of the above mentioned modalities…

with these two gentlemen.

I share this…

because having a love of learning definitely comes in handy.

So do copious note taking abilities!

This way…

I can visit…

revisit…

and revisit some more.

Important skill and a good one to hone!

Leadership Education is education that is internalized.

It goes deep into the heart and soul of the individual…

helping to define who they are…

and what their purpose is for being on this earth.

Classics.

Classics are works of literature…

or bodies of writing…

that put you in touch with tremendous thoughts and ideas…

rather than a “committee” of mediocre minds.

Generally speaking…

most textbooks fall into the category of mediocrity…

rather than inspiring and encouraging a range of great thought.

They teach you “what to think”

not “how” to think.

Knowing “how” to think…

again, generally speaking…

threatens “the system” or the “process.”

Leadership Education is a model…

that fosters a pioneering spirit!

It isn’t looking to copy…

but rather to innovate and create.

It also realizes that there are many things worth fighting for…

and that true education aids and fine tunes those things.

For example…

professionalism can be an aid...

but it isn’t education in and of itself!

With this in mind, then…

setting an “age limit” or defining an “arrival point”…

can be both a dead end and a serious point of frustration.

For example…

saying that someone “has to achieve thus and such”…

at exactly a certain age or point in life…

can be a trap.

This is a life long process!

It’s a beautiful journey…

that can successfully be pursued by all…

and it is immeasurably worth the effort!

I think that the following poem beautifully depicts the calling…

as well as the privilege…

of the mentor…

and of the awesome rewards that come…

from utilizing this model called Leadership Education.

It is from a speech given by Garland Wright.

“Come to the edge…

It’s too high.

Come to the edge…

We might fall.

Come to the edge…

And they came.

And he pushed them.

And they flew.”

In order to glean more information about taking classes with Dr. Shanon Brooks…

using the Leadership Education model…

you can visit here. TeriSig


 


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  1. 1
    Christy says:

    I had one of those MOMENTS after talking with you on Saturday Teri… we were talking about this – the most asked question in TJED – “How do you do it?”… well, I tend to be a ‘helper’ and a problem solver – I want to show everyone how to do it – how to mentor…

    but you are exactly right – I certainly can show my fellow TJED families what I do, but if they copy exactly what I do, exactly how I mentor…..

    – they are not being true to the pioneer spirit of TJED, nor are they being true to the fact they are experts themselves…

    however –

    if I am able to INSPIRE them by my mentoring/teaching/ideas – and they take what I do, tweek it and make it their own – wa-la! The magic begins.

    I need to get back into blogging and sharing the things we are doing daily to inspire others. Inspire, not require 😉

    – I can’t wait to hear you inspire in June!

    Teri Reply:
    May 17th, 2010 at 9:31 am

    Christy..that was a great conversation…with several great ladies. I think that we need to realize that organic TJEd gives us the ability to realize that we DO know what we’re doing and we CAN do this!
    I so appreciate you, and every other mom that is working to this end! XO~Teri ;0)

  2. 2
    Libby says:

    …one of the toughest questions while getting our feet wet in the TJED way!

    I have wanted to shout “how do I do this” from the roof tops many-a-times.Not that I didn’t “get it” but for me the frustration comes from ME being ready, then not having the reaction I expected from my kids…

    We are still getting our toes into this, but when I started thinking I was “inspiring” my kids and all my 12 y/o son wanted to do with his new found self-guided education was play video games, LOOK through a book and say “do we really have to talk about it?” I was devastated.

    I was defenitaly looking for a “how to” guide. I soon realized it is just like discipline, as parents WE have to find what works and what doesn’t. What feels right and what feels wrong.

    We are still doing all of this. I am excited and ready to jump in…but my kids, being this our first year home schooling at all, are still trying to transission into this life.

    I can’t belive I made it through the first year…NOW I know what to do for the future. I can honestly say “with a giggle…” my kids didn’t learn a whole lot this year..but I learned a whole lot about them. Now I am ready to jump into TJED with both feet!

    I can’t tell you how much I love your encouraging words :)
    with much gratitude-
    Libby

    Teri Reply:
    May 17th, 2010 at 9:34 am

    Libby,
    Great to hear from you and read your comments about continuing on the journey to effectively define TJEd for your family. You won’t be sorry!
    I am speaking on June 5th in Temecula if it would be of any help to you to come and spend a day with like minded individuals.
    Just putting it out there. Again, thank you for contributing! XO~Teri ;0)

  3. 3

    Quit asking how. Just do it and you will get better at the how. Teri, I loved the Obi-Wan comparison. I believe he was there until the end and in every episode ? That not being the case with Oliver; Shanon, others, and myself are so grateful to you for reminding us of the source and the classic whose genius brought this all back to us in the first place!
    Oliver wrote down the basic principles, because people and families were not getting the message.The message is basic and clear: teach right and wrong through work and play with your family. Fall in love with learning and READ your core book and the classics; and get and give yourself and your children an excellent education for freedom, to remain free. THAT IS IT! It was so simple we alI missed it! This is partly because it is so far from the conveyor belt. When he intially gave the “rules”, it is interesting to note that he gave them without rules, structure,or even a set list of classics!
    I love your term organic TJED. We want to be told what to do. We want to be spoon fed. Organic? This simply means how it was done from the beginning; before anyone came up with some”better”way to do it. It can be compared to farming. All of the “stuff” that makes a plant easier to grow, give bigger yields, and look better is not only not better for us but harms us and is not sustainable. Food for thought….

    Teri Reply:
    May 17th, 2010 at 9:32 am

    Symbria,
    Love it! Love your analogies to gardening and always appreciate it when you leave a comment. Coming from an original TJEd pioneer, it means a lot! XO~Teri ;0)

    Melinda Ambrose Reply:
    July 24th, 2010 at 8:47 pm

    About the “stuff” that makes a plant easier to grow, give bigger yields, and look better, not being better for us but harms us and is not sustainable… well, there IS this really cool “organic” “stuff” that does all those things and is sustainable; it gets Dumped on us. It’s called compost, and it’s composed (ha) of all the problems and situations that normally come up to challenge our assumptions and make us do the hard work of breaking it down and making it usable for our little plants.

    Teri Reply:
    July 29th, 2010 at 6:40 pm

    I LOVE this analogy! Thank you for commenting, Melinda! XO, ;0)

  4. 4
    Deena says:

    I really enjoyed today’s post on Tommy Mom and the comments that followed. Isn’t it true that so many want to be told how to do something? I suppose it is merely a continuation of the educational standard with which our generation was raised — that efficiency model of one size fits all with a clearly identified scope and sequence.

    However, that old paradigm does make implementing leadership education difficult for some who are not used to thinking in terms of principles instead of methodologies. Furthermore, too many have not recognized that each child is unique with his or her own genius (as Teri said) and that each set of parents has sovereign stewardship for the children with whom they have been entrusted, but that there are eternal principles set as guidelines. That is why TJEd is so valuable because the principles have been so plainly identified and a nomenclature established so that they can be more clearly understood.

    It is also why Tommy Mom is valuable because it gives those who are new to Leadership Education a picture of what LE can look like — a starting point if you will, but one that can be adjusted to fit the needs of your own family. I like what Libby said about learning a whole lot about her children this year, and I bet they actually did learn a lot more than she thinks.

    Teri Reply:
    May 17th, 2010 at 11:49 am

    Thanks, Deena! It’s always great to hear from you. I agree heartily. I think that Libby’s children learned a whole lot more than she probably thinks that they did! I think that whether you started your journey in TJEd yesterday, or have been “in the trenches” for years…revisiting basic tenants is a wise investment for all of us.

    Deena Reply:
    May 17th, 2010 at 12:41 pm

    You are so right that it is important to “revisit” the basic tenets of TJEd. I can’t stress enough the importance of reading and re-reading the books written or co-written by Dr. Oliver DeMille. In my opinion, the TJEd library should be in every home, and A THOMAS JEFFERSON EDUCATION by Oliver DeMille should be in every public library. I also found it really beneficial to attend the Face to Face with Greatness seminar series* — more than once if it is financially feasible. I first attended the seminars by myself (in another state) and then went through the series again with my husband. Then I hosted three series in my area so that my young adult children could attend. It’s never too late to profoundly impact one’s family culture in a positive manner by reading (or visiting) the classics.

    *The Face to Face with Greatness seminar series is made of up three two-day seminars spaced out over the period of a few months to allow time to complete the readings and begin implementing the principles taught. The cost is commensurate with college extension courses that I have taken through the University of California system (actually a little less). However, the content has been far more valuable than that of any other course I’ve ever taken.

  5. 5
    Heather Remund says:

    The idea you shared on the conference call and on the blog of “being a pioneer” just resonated with me. It has lit a fire in me and pushed me to take the reins of my family and my education and stop seeking the how to’s of others. The “How to’s” in homeschooling are a like a crutch that mimic the conveyor belt system where we feel the need to join support groups and try to copy what this person or that person is doing or rush from one curriculum to another looking for a one size fits all fit. It doesn’t exist just like in clothes… Thank you for lighting the fire and sharing your insights with all of us.

  6. 6
    Stephanie says:

    Teri, you are hilarious with your “Scary thought, I know!” comment. You crack me up! Loved this quote, too, “Leadership Education is education that is internalized.” I gleen so much from these types of posts, as well as the comments. It is true that those of us who went through the conveyor belt education just want others to tell us how to implement Leadership Ed in our homes. It is very difficult to unlearn being told how to do every little thing. Your experiences and advice do help quite a bit in figuring this whole thing out. Keep it coming! Deena- your input was very insightful and helpful for me, too. Thanks for taking the time to contribute!

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