Reading: Fast or Slow? You be the Judge!

I promised to announce another give away today on TommyMom

and I’m not gonna lie.

I would really, really, really like to pretend…

that I never offered to be generous…

and keep it for myself!

I’m deep like that from time to time.

Today’s gift is offered by Christy Gandara of One Creative Bug.

Christy is also a veteran reader here on TommyMom

but that isn’t why I love, love, love her.

She is one of the most generous…

joy-filled…

sincere…

individuals you will ever meet.

And…

she wrote this post for us…

so that the mystery…

of why Mother Theresa is not yet considered a saint…

could be cleared up once and for all!

I know that I personally slept better that night…

armed with her vital knowledge.

Christy has given us several goodies…

but what I’m giving away next Friday…

is a wall vinyl that says…

“That noise you hear is the sound of freedom.”

I love it!

Several people…

have brought to the conversation table…

that they are, in fact…

slow readers.

For them…

as well as others…

this appears to pose a challenge in Leadership Education.

Since one of our Keys…

is “Classics, not Textbooks”…

one would assume that reading is paramount!

I know that while I am a fast reader…

my brother, Tim…

makes Evelyn Wood look like a slouch!

I have witnessed him reading…

at a rate that has made me sweat…

and wondered…

how in the HECK..

he is retaining anything!

He does.

So do many others that walk amongst us.

There is a great read entitled…

“How to Read a Book”…

by Mortimer Adler.

It gives lots of food for thought!

I highly recommend it.

It is also full of suggestions and techniques…

that help you to improve your ability to read…

process…

comprehend.

However…

earlier this week…

I read this article

and was fascinated.

I value your opinions.

Hint: for those of you that perhaps don’t realize it…

if you click on the words “this article”…

you will be taken to it!

Just keepin’ it real…

and accessible.

After you read the article…

please leave your thoughts.

I have many…

but don’t wish to prejudice the audience!

Each comment left on TommyMom

between now and next Thursday…

regarding any and all posts and topics…

will be counted as an entry.

All prizes are chosen through random.org.

I look forward to hearing from you!
TeriSig


Random Thoughts

And the winner is…

Heather Remund!

Congratulations, Heather! You are the winner of the 50th anniversary copy…

of “Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh!

E-mail me your address to claim your prize!

And watch Friday’s post for our next giveaway.

What can I say?…

I’m on a Summer roll!

So many of you have shared kind thoughts this past week here on TommyMom.

I appreciate them…

and am humbled that you perceive me as an example and inspiration.

Honestly…

I struggle with many of the same things that each of you do.

Shoot…

we’re all in this boat together.

One thing that is a tremendous help…

is knowing who you are…

and “what you’re made of.”

It makes all the difference in the world…

when negative naysayers…

as well as those that are well-meaning…

begin to criticize…

scrutinize…

and analyze…

what you’re doing.

In the throes of any or all of the above…

it is often difficult to find one’s self…

and to think clearly.

Perhaps you haven’t taken the time…

to introspectively ask these questions in awhile.

Maybe you should.

You change…

and you grow.

You progress to a different level…

in your Leadership Education journey…

over time.

Your children do the same.

Perhaps what worked yesterday…

simply isn’t cutting it now.

Something that would’ve terrified…

even a couple of years ago…

is now eagerly embraced.

There’s no doubt about it…

as we change…

and grow…

we see things differently.

With that in mind…

let me remind you…

and share with you…

some up and coming opportunities.

The great thing about organic TJEd…

is that no matter when…

or how often…

you choose to revisit the Phases and the Keys…

you will be the beneficiary.

Perhaps on a level…

that previously…

you weren’t even aware existed!

Temecula, California…

will be home to a Face to Face With Greatness #2…

September 10 and 11, 2010.

It is entitled…

“Thomas Jefferson Education: Mentoring the Classics.”

The question often arises…

as to whether or not you may participate in a #2…

without a #1.

The answer is “yes.”

If you need further information regarding this opportunity…

please contact Erika Lundquist at evlundquist@gmail.com.

The early bird price is $140/person and $270/couple…

until August 9th.

Perhaps you have taken the Face to Face series before.

But then…

you were in a different place.

Visiting…

revisiting…

and building…

where the Phases, Keys, and Community are concerned…

is a huge piece of that whole concept of knowing who you are.

Trust me…

it helps to clarify so very much…

when the waters get murky…

the sky gets cloudy…

the well-meaning objections and inquiries…

begin to fly.

Knowledge that can be easily referenced…

is a significant source of strength.

We are building quite a strong virtual community here…

and I, for one…

couldn’t be happier!

Can you tell that I’m ever-so-slightly…

social?

It’s part of why I’m so excited to announce…

that come October…

I’ll be “taking it on the road!”

Along with Son #2.

We’ve been invited to Arkansas and Missouri!

To bond…

with the great people in these states.

Oh…

and to discuss TJEd principles in a one day seminar…

that we will do as many times as the audience will bear!

If you have friends…

family…

and yes, even foe…

in these parts…

send them over!

So far…

in my initial “dealings”…

via the phone lines…

these great people couldn’t be friendlier!

They have a lot on the ball…

where TJEd…

and community are concerned.

I can’t wait to learn from them!

Contact Debbie Hardesty…

at dhardesty@windstream.net…

for further information and details.

In the meantime…

know that I…

along with many of you…

am taking some serious inventory…

evaluating current knowledge…

analyzing weaknesses and present positions…

so that I can go forth with even greater strength.

May you do the same!
TeriSig






Pioneer Day

Chapter Nine in “A Thomas Jefferson Education” lists Harvard, Princeton and Wythe skills.

In it, Dr. DeMille points out, that while both the Harvard and Princeton skills will give you the ability to earn good grades in school and success in a career; they do very little to win happiness.

He then provides a list of items that faculty and students at George Wythe came up with that should not only be considered; but also included as part of your education so that you will be prepared for the future, and ultimately success.

Two things in the Wythe list are the focus of today’s post.

They are…

The ability to establish, maintain and improve lasting relationships…

and…

The ability to keep one’s life in proper balance.

I highly recommend revisiting this chapter, if you haven’t read it in awhile.


This past week…

was such a whirlwind of activity and emotion…

that I was left trying to figure out…

not only what I’ve actually done…

but what I’ve celebrated and accomplished!

This post begins a year ago…

when Symbria Patterson heard Sons #1-#3…

play at another event…


we traveled to Cedar City…

to celebrate.

Symbria asked them then and there…

to return this past Saturday, July 24th

to participate in the Pioneer Day event…

that she was in charge of …

where arranging any and all activities and food were concerned.


It was a big job.


Basically…

it is a celebration surrounding the founders of the Mormon faith…

settling in Utah and declaring that this is where they would stay.


Pretty humorous for a lot of folks involved…

because the Helms don’t share the same faith.

In fact…

We were quite possibly…

some of the only people attending and participating in this event…

that aren’t Latter Day Saints!


But you see…

so much of true statesmanship revolves around the fact…

that you know your faith…

your convictions and beliefs…

and you

then seek to understand and know others.


I love so many people in Cedar City.

Many of them…

and the relationships we’ve built and celebrated…

have served in valuable ways…

to enhance my own understanding…

of Leadership Education…

and my experiences within the community.

Of course…

our boys readily committed.


Lynn and Symbria Patterson…

along with their daughter Sara…

not only always provide people…

with incredible hospitality…

their friendship is to be cherished.

Oh, the things that you experience…

when working alongside them!


Let’s just say….

much of the time…

the events can be likened to hair on fire…

mach speed…

surreal situations…

that always ultimately work out…

but can leave you sweating  profusely…

in the interim.

It always promises to be not only interesting…

but enriching…

challenging…

and a lot of fun as well!


The balance piece alone…

Is precious to us.

As very urban…

often insanely busy…

Southern Californians…

The change invites us…

to take a deep breath…

Experience country life…

and small town living.


It allows you to wake up…

to the persistent yet cheerful greeting of roosters..

to participate in the local home town parade…

to participate in an agrarian life first hand.

It’s a community that’s tight knit…

Proud…

Hard working.


A reminder of all that this great nation was founded on…

and needs to continue to nurture and celebrate…

in order to maintain freedom.

No….

We don’t just choose…

to build lasting relationships…

in our Leadership Education community…

on the local level.


Why….

even here on TommyMom…

this ever growing community…

not only celebrates several states…

but now two countries as well!

Can it be exhausting…

as well as somewhat daunting…

to faithfully build?


Absolutely!

However…

the personal…

as well as the collective rewards…

of relationships and balance gained…

bring growth…

diversity and perspective…

absolutely necessary to the development of you.

We are traveling home happy and rejuvenated…

feeling a measure of success…

regarding what we contributed to this event…

as well as pondering what we learned from others.

How about you?

How are your community building efforts…

and adventures coming along?
TeriSig

Don’t forget….Wednesday is the giveaway of “Gift from the Sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh!

What about Curriculum?


Noah Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines curriculum as the derivative of the word to be :

curricle, n. ( L. curriculum, from curro, to run.) 3. A course.

Perhaps it is just “that time of the year”…

or merely coincidence…

but I have been asked about “curriculum”…

no less that 3 times in the last 4 days!

TJEd isn’t a curriculum…

nor does it have one!

I phoned “Obi-Wan”…

(for those of you that aren’t familiar with the actual individual I would be referring to…

it is none other than Dr. Shanon Brooks)…

and below is his response.

I hope and pray that you will print it off…

read it thoroughly…

ponder it…

file it…

and read it again…

at least 20 more times.

Dr. Brooks is up to his eyeballs…

in noteworthy pursuits at this particular season…

yet loves the TJEd community enough…

to literally stop EVERYTHING yesterday…

in order to pen this article.

I implore you to respect that effort…

and value what you are doing enough…

to give his article…

your undivided attention.

Yes, it is lengthy.

Yes, it is thought provoking.

Yes, it is more than worth your time…

whatever your station in life.

If you love your freedom…

and value the thought process…

that it be maintained at all costs…

read on.

And when you do…

be thankful for statesmen like Dr. Brooks…

that are willing to lay themselves down…

so that others may “know!”
TeriSig



Dr. Shanon Brooks and his wife Julia have spent the past 20 years practicing the principles of TJEd with their 6 children (ages 9 to 20, 2 boys (the youngest boy suffers from Asperger Syndrome) and 4 girls) and teaching the concepts of TJEd all across the United States and Canada via Face to Face with Greatness Seminars (over 350 seminars since 1999). Dr. Brooks was mentored under Dr. Oliver and Rachel DeMille since 1992 learning and applying the TJEd in both family education and higher education arenas.  Many people consider him an authority on TJEd specifically and education in general.

“The trick to TJEd, (and we cover this in every seminar), is three basic concepts:

1. Unconditional Love Relationships

2. Being Inspired Personally (inspiration rubs off, it is not taught or even simulated.  It can only impact others indirectly)

3. Support the Kids (whatever they get inspired to do, we must be there for them)

I am aware of the current concerns that some are posing in regards to the use of curriculum.  A quick search will show that curriculum was not even a part of the American family education (k-12) mindset until 1910.  It is rooted in the European approach to education introduced by Horace Mann in the late 1850′s and furthered by the likes of John Dewey and others in the 2oth century. Let me repeat this, curriculum for higher education, yes from the beginning, but not for what we call K-12.

Below is a bit of research I did regarding education in America for the period of 1630′s to the mid 1800′s:

Education in America

The preeminent role that religion played on the stage of early American

education is fascinating, and worth exploring.  The primary purpose of education in America as early as the beginning of the Seventeenth Century was to develop literacy so children and adults alike could read the Bible. Historian Mary-Elaine Swanson makes this point in her book The Education of James Madison:

“What gave education its impetus in Colonial America?  The answer lies in the people’s religious faith.  From the earliest times in the colonies, the primary motive for learning was so that children could read the Bible for themselves and be guided by its lessons in all the concerns of their lives.”[1]

“All historians agree that a most singular and important feature of the settlers of

America was their overpowering sense of mission — a conviction that they were taking part in the unfolding of a manifest destiny of divine design which would shower its blessings on all mankind. As historian John Fiske writes:

‘They believed that they were doing a wonderful thing. They felt themselves to be instruments in accomplishing a kind of “manifest destiny”. Their exodus [from Europe] was that of a chosen people who were at length to lay the everlasting foundations of God’s kingdom upon earth…. This steadfast faith in an unseen ruler and guide was to them a pillar of cloud by day and of fire by night. It was of great moral value. It gave them clearness of purpose and concentration of strength, and contributed towards making them, like the children of Israel, a people of indestructible vitality and aggressive energy.’”[2]

This not only meant that the foundation of education in America was the Bible and what it taught, but it also meant that every person had a duty to be literate, or in other words, each person had a responsibility to learn how to read and write well enough to understand the Bible (the code for Christian living), the laws of the land and play their part in building God’s Kingdom.  Thus, America became the seedbed for “Manifest Destiny”[3] education.

Another reason that Colonial America put such emphasis on reading the Bible was that “this was one of the great goals of the Reformation begun by Martin Luther, and it continued to be the goal of parents and pedagogues in Colonial America.  In addition to the importance of the Bible’s theological substance in colonial education, there was also its quality as a literary work. Written during the flowering of the English language that also produced the works of William Shakespeare, the King James Version’s beauty and variety of expression formed a high standard for literary composition.”[4]

The Enlightenment spawned by the Reformation was the catalyst of many of the ills of the Eighteenth and Nineteenth Centuries.  However, it also created a desire for people to know God for themselves, and to worship Him as they saw fit. This “new” way of thinking produced men like Rousseau and Voltaire, whose writings led to disillusion and the fall of nations.  It also produced John Locke and Charles de Montesquieu, who with writings like Two Treaties on Government and The Spirit of Laws applied the teachings of the Bible to the government of free people with unalienable rights and reliance on Natural Law. This hearkens back to the Anglo-Saxon roots of England and Europe, where all men were equal and expected to play their part in the governing of the whole.

As the State and Church evolved in Europe they seemed inseparably connected, each dominating the other in their own way.

In America, however, that same religious zeal was free from State control,

resulting in an “American” approach to religion, education and politics that opened the door for unprecedented liberty.  Much of this was due to the influence of the teachings of Calvin. “The fanatic for Calvinism was a fanatic for liberty, for in the moral warfare for freedom, his creed was a part of his army, and his most faithful ally in the battle.  And Groen van Prinsterer has thus expressed it: ‘In Calvinism lies the origin and guarantee of our constitutional liberties.’ That Calvinism has led public law into new paths, first in Western Europe, then in two Continents, and today more and more among all civilized nations, is admitted by all scientific students, if not yet fully by public opinion.”[5] The proof of this liberty laden influence is demonstrated in the fact that three of the most prominent of the early American Universities; namely; Harvard, Yale and the College of New Jersey[6] (alma maters of many of the influential Founders) were heavily Calvinistic in their curriculum.

For the first time since the invention of the printing press, the opportunity was available for people to be free from the greatest bondage that ever plagued mankind, the bondage of ignorance.  Not since before the Dark Ages had a people been in a position where literacy was not only available, but expected.

In addition to the advantages that religious principles seemed to bring to the American education system, another source of the high quality of American education may be the fact that by 1647 one-hundred-thirty graduates of Oxford, Cambridge and Dublin Universities had already immigrated to America.[7]

Education was a strongly felt priority by Colonial American parents, in fact, by 1700 over one-hundred-thirty editions of spelling books and three-hundred-thirty-two different primary readers were in print in response to the call for aid in home schooling and tutoring.[8] These were supplements, not packaged curriculum.

To accommodate this “Manifest Destiny” approach to education, thousands of small private schools developed to meet the challenge. “The private system of education in which our forefathers were educated included home, church, voluntary associations, …circulating libraries, apprenticeships, and self-study.”[9]

The libraries of stuffy New England schools as well as of spacious plantation homes of the South were full of reading materials that stressed duty to God, family and country.  With titles like The Whole Duty of Man by Richard Allestries (1678), The Practice of Piety by Lewis Bayle (1612), Of Domestic Duties by William Gouge (1622), The Godly Forme of Household Government by Robert Cleaver (1598), The Religious Education of Children by Issac Watts (1753) and The Dignity of Human Nature by James Burgh (1754), many were influenced to seek good.

William Holmes McGuffey began printing his famous McGuffey Readers (also supplements, not packaged curriculum.  Parents still assumed the role of deciding what their children needed and did not trust it to others.  Another lost truth about American education—it was a primary role of the fathers, not the mothers) as an aid to home schooling in 1836. By 1920 there were over one-hundred-twenty million copies in print.  In an 1880 reprint, it is clear to see the path that he and the majority of Americans thought that education ought to pursue. The following selections show how McGuffey helped to ensure that the next generation of Americans would carry on the American tradition of service and responsibility:

The Needle – a short poem by Samuel Woodworth exemplifying the virtues of sewing versus living the high life.

House Cleaning – this funny short story by Francis Hopkinson explains in

humorous detail the reformation of a household during spring cleaning, it also teaches the virtues of cleanliness and responsibility.

Schemes of Life often Illusory – written by Samuel Johnson, this short story teaches to stay focused on what is important.

Tact and Talent – Thomas Grey’s short analysis of the differences between tact and talent.

On Happiness of Temper – a wonderful short essay on the true source of happiness.

Other titles include:

The Character of Columbus            How Men Reason

Observance of the Sabbath                        The Character of George Washington

The English Character                        Origin of Property

The Folly of Intoxication                        Labor

Studies                                                Franklin’s Entry Into Philadelphia

Inventions and Discoveries            Immorality of the Soul

Speech on the Trial of a Murderer            A Definite Aim in Reading

Throughout the first cycle of American education from 1607 to 1887, there was a strong emphasis on the “basics” of education including:

Reading – the use of phonics and memorization as the primary methods of learning to read.

Writing – learning Script (cursive) from the first grade on with lots of practice in writing skills, grammar and spelling.

Arithmetic – particularly the skills needed in bookkeeping and business.

Oral and written communication – constant stress on vocabulary and spelling, making use of spelling bees, essay contests, etc.

Literature – both classical and contemporary, particularly that which uplifts and builds.

Music – primary focus was character building through the practice and persistence required to learn and play an instrument or sing.

Art – painting, drawing, sculpting, etc.

Science – the study of plants, animals, astronomy, etc.

History – particularly American history and its Constitutional form of government.

Geography – the geopolitical and physical layout of the world.

Personal Hygiene – both physical and mental.

Dr. Skousen describes the elements that John Adams included in the education of his son John Quincy Adams:

“By the time his son John Quincy Adams was eighteen, the youth had become fairly proficient in Latin, French and Greek. He had also studied English and French literature, many of the Greek classics, Roman, English and Greek history, the theorems of Euclid, plane trigonometry, algebra, decimal fractions, geometrical proportions, and conic sections. However John Adams said his son was still a little weak in calculus.”[10]

It could easily be said, as we cite the education of these men, that “of course they had good educations, they are Founding Fathers”.  We need to keep in mind that at the time of their educational process neither their parents nor themselves had any idea what the future held; this was simply the educational pattern of the time.  The early education of James Madison is similar to that of John Quincy Adams. He was taught by his grandmother at home until he was twelve. Being sickly, he spent a good deal of time bed-ridden or indoors and taking advantage of his father’s eighty-five book library. This seems to have once again led to a habit of intense reading and solitary study.  At the age of twelve, his father enrolled him into a boarding school seventy miles from home.  Here he began his studies in preparation for college. The curriculum consisted of Latin, Greek, French, algebra, geometry, geography, literature, astronomy and the

writings of Locke, Fontenelle, Plato and Euclid.[11] Madison kept detailed notebooks on his studies, in fact, keeping notebooks was a very important part of early American education which carried on into adult life. Speaking to his son, John Adams once explained:

“One contracts a Fondness for writing by Use. We learn to write readily and what is more important, we think, and improve our Judgements, by committing our thoughts to paper.”[12]

At sixteen, Madison’s father had him return home and spend the next two years under the tutelage of Rev. Thomas Martin. At nineteen, it was determined that he was ready for college. He had mastered English and Greek and was well aquainted with Latin and French. He also had a substantial background in literature, the classics, political economy, mathematics, astronomy, and philosophy not to mention excellent reading and writing skills.

Thomas Jefferson, like Madison and Adams, received a traditional Colonial education. Beginning at the age of five, Jefferson was less than eager to discipline himself to the task. During his first year of schooling, he would sneak out of the classroom, kneel behind the building and recite the Lord’s Prayer, “…hoping thereby to hasten the hour of dismissal.”[13]

As he grew, however, so did his desire to learn. He was an inquisitive youth, according to one account:

“When he discovered a neighbor or stranger doing something he did not understand, he asked questions and observed the proceeding until his curiosity was fully gratified, and then usually made notes of his observations in a memorandum book.  His inquisitiveness was proverbial in the neighborhood, and [one ] woman …remarked that she ‘never knew anyone to ask so many questions as Thomas Jefferson.’”[14]

By the age of nine he could already read Latin, Greek and French and soon added Spanish, Italian and Anglo-Saxon.[15]

At fourteen Jefferson’s father died, leaving the teenage Jefferson the sole owner of large and wealthy land holdings and away at boarding school.  He later stated that:

“When I recollect that at fourteen years of age the whole care and direction of myself was thrown on myself entirely, without relation or friend qualified to advise or guide me, and recollect the various sorts of bad company with which I associated from time to time, I am astonished I did not turn off with some of them and become as worthless to society as they were.”[16]

He attributed his ability to make right choices during those troubling times to his

classical education, the loving words of council left by his father and high character of some of the people he met at the College of William and Mary where he enrolled as an advanced student at the age of seventeen.  He wrote:

“I had the good fortune to become aquatinted very early with some characters of very high standing, and to feel the incessant wish that I could ever become what they were.  Under temptations and difficulties, I would ask myself, what would Dr. Small, Mr. Wythe [or] Payton Randolph do in this situation?  What course in it will ensure me their approbation? I am certain that this mode of deciding on my conduct tended more to correctness than any reasoning powers I possessed.”[17]

The need to teach young and old alike what their duty was as citizens was voiced by many American educational leaders. John Witherspoon, the President of Princeton University states in a collect in his writings, Works of John Witherspoon, that:

“He is the best friend to American Liberty who is most sincere and active in promoting true and undefiled religion, and who sets himself with the greatest firmness to bear down on profanity and immorality of every kind.  Whoever is an avowed enemy to God, I scruple not to call him an enemy to his country.”

The ideology prevalent in America from the early Seventeenth Century to the beginning of the Twentieth Century, was one firmly grounded in literacy, scholarship[18] (prerequisite to knowing God and the laws of the land) and serving one’s fellowman.

This ideology rationalized that the best way to understand man was to understand God, and that living the way that He declared would lead to the greatest success and happiness. In the mind of the early American, it was a simple matter of being as good as you could and serving God and your neighbor.


[1] ( Swanson, The Education of James Madison, pp. 5)

[2] ( Skousen, The Five Thousand Year Leap, pp. 305-6)

[3] Contrary to current usage, Manifest Destiny during the Colonial period referred to the building of a society that would usher in the Second Coming of Jesus Christ, as foretold in the Old Testament.

[4] ( Swanson, The Education of James Madison, pp. 5)

[5] ( Kuyper, Lectures on Calvinism, lect. 3 pp. 78)

[6] Later known as Princeton University

[7] ( Morison, The Oxford History of the American People, pp. 71)

[8] ( Morison, The Intellectual Life of New England, pp. 71-71)

[9] (Peterson, Freeman, pp. 553)

[10] ( Ibid. pp. 4)

[11] ( Swanson, The Education of James Madison, pp. 24)

[12] ( Ibid. pp. 25)

[13] (Allison, The Real Thomas Jefferson, pp. 14)

[14] ( Ibid. )

[15] (Ibid. pp. 15)

[16] (Ibid.)

[17] (Ibid. pp. 17)

[18] The sole purpose of literacy is to provide a means to scholarship, which is much deeper and wider than literacy. A scholar is someone who has been exposed to and can articulate the great thoughts, philosophies, and works of God and mankind.  A scholar is someone who has studied other languages and cultures, a person who has read and experienced the classical literary works of the world, architecture, science, philosophy, history, mathematics, etiquette and social graces.  To develop scholarship, a change must occur in the thinking of the individual; that change will only occur when the person is exposed to information that is new to him. To develop scholarship is to advocate free thinking, promote keen judgement and advance sound reasoning.  True scholarship relies more on past wisdom and avoidance of past folly than on the supposed sagacity and short sightedness of the present.  The true steward of scholarship values and maintains a strong devotion to the best learning of our Fathers, and to the best of our Fathers themselves.

Overwhelm

“Everybody today seems to be in such a terrible rush, anxious for greater development and greater riches, so that children have very little time for their parents.  And parents have very little time for their children and for each other.  So the breakdown of peace in the world begins at home.” ~ Mother Theresa

When I started this blog, I pledged right up front to myself…

well, come to think of it…

to you as well…

that I wouldn’t be “one of those blogs.”

You know…

the kind where everything is pristine…

nearing perfection…

absolutely “in- order-at- all- times?”

Basically…

the kind of image that leaves you wondering…

where you were when all of the “I’ve-got-it-together…

and-am-nearly-perfect” skill sets were passed out!

With that in mind…

I would like to state that today has been a hardship…

in so many ways.

In others it has been a beautiful opportunity.

Unfortunately…

far too early this morning…

we received a most unpleasant phone call…

with devastating…

soul-searing news at the other end.

I was elected to phone someone else…

that others were concerned about…

to deliver this same news to them.

It’s one of those days..

that, come 9:00 a.m. …

you’re secretly wondering if a shower…

pajamas…

and bed for the rest of the 24 hour duration

would be in order.

I don’t have them often.

Thank you, Lord.

Also in this day…

we have had the joy of friends visiting…

quite unexpectedly…

on their way through town to a convention.

We haven’t seen these dear ones in nearly 3 years!

They are staying the night.

Many of you have heard me rave about Jan and Gary Bloom.

Jan is the author of “Who Should We Then Read?…

Volumes 1 and 2.

It has been a joy to dialogue about books…

books…

books…

and more books…

this evening over dinner.

Jan is honestly one of the most well-read individuals…

I personally know.

And hanging out in the Leadership Education community…

that’s saying a lot!

There was also very robust dialogue in our group this evening…

over this afternoon’s disclosure…

that Sons #1-#3 will be testifying in court tomorrow…

in regards to a car accident they were involved in…

last October.

Sometimes…

I am in a hugely inappropriate rush.

Sometimes…

I applaud greater development…

and can tend to worry in these economic times…

about “riches.”

But today…

I am reminded that I, indeed, possess them.

On the greatest levels.

I have an incredible husband…

equally amazing sons…

family and friends that love me…

and a home that honestly does strive to be at peace…

with all men…

as much as is humanly possible.

So…

I am going to haul my tired…

emotionally spent…

exhausted…

self…

to bed.

Because tomorrow is a new day.

Filled with fresh seconds…

minutes…

hours…

to cherish relationships…

in the form of family…

friends…

and even acquaintances that can be touched for the better.

And it all starts right here…

at home.

Isn’t that what this blog is really about?
TeriSig

p.s.  You thought I forgot, didn’t you?!  I’m gone…but not quite that far!

Monday’s post certainly resonated with many of you.  With that in mind…

we are going to continue to visit and dialogue about the things that pull us…

vie for attention…

create distraction and conflict at times.

Curriculum.  Household responsibilities. Peers.

To name a few.

Stay tuned…and be ready to respond!

Next Wednesday…

I will give away a 50th Anniversary copy of “Gift from the Sea!”

A Gift

I’d like to tell you that every book I read is approached with some exacting science, and calculated routine when it comes to choosing.

Many times it is through recommendation from someone that I respect, admire, and appreciate for life accomplishments, worldview, values, etc.

Ann Morrow Lindbergh’s “Gift from the Sea” is a book that has been recommended to me no less than 6 times in the past 6 months.  Whether in person, in print, or face to face…

this little book kept coming up.

I am finding out that many individuals read it annually.

I picked up my copy on Friday.

So far, I am in love.

It is in its 50th anniversary year.

The introduction by her daughter, Reeve Lindbergh…

is nothing short of  beautiful.

Ann Morrow Lindbergh’s life accomplishments are impressive.

And she mothered 5 children.

Last Wednesday, we had occasion…

to visit one of California’s most beautiful beaches.

We had friends visiting from Chicago.

It is also a very famous beach.

SurfCity to be exact.

Yes, it’s “THE ONE” that the Beach Boys sang about.

At the end of July…

they will be hosting the U.S. Surfing Open.

If you can…

I strongly recommend…

at least one day at the beach this summer…

to clear your head.

And refresh your soul.

Until Wednesday…

here are some of my personal photos…

interspersed with an excerpt from Ann Morrow Lindbergh’s book.

I hope you enjoy both.

Be sure to leave a comment…

as Wednesday…

I will announce the beginning of a summer giveaway…

and today’s comments count!
TeriSig

“Plotinus was preaching the dangers of multiplicity of the world back in the third century. Yet the problem is particularly and essentially woman’s.  Distraction is, always has been, and probably always will be, inherent in  woman’s life.

For to be a woman is to have interests and duties, raying out in all directions from the central mother-core, like spokes from the hub of a wheel.  The pattern of our lives is essentially circular.

We must be open to all points of the compass; husband, children, friends, home, community; stretched out, exposed, sensitive like a spider’s web to each breeze that blows, to each call that comes.

How difficult for us, then, to achieve a balance in the midst of these contradictory tensions, and yet how necessary for the proper functioning of our lives.

How much we need, and how arduous of attainment is that steadiness preached in all rules for holy living.

How desirable and how distant is the ideal of the contemplative, artist or saint–the inner inviolable core, the single eye.

With a new awareness, both painful and humorous, I begin to understand why the saints were rarely married women.  I am convinced it has nothing inherently to do, as I once supposed, with chastity or children.

It has to do primarily with distractions.  The bearing, rearing, feeding and educating of children; the running of a house with its thousand details; human relationships with their myriad pulls–woman’s normal occupations in general run counter to creative life, or contemplative life, or saintly life.

The problem is not merely one of Woman and Career, Woman and the Home, Woman and Independence.

It is more basically: how to remain whole in the midst of the distractions of life; how to remain balanced,

no matter what centrifugal forces tend to pull one off center;

how to remain strong, no matter what shocks come in at the periphery and tend to crack the hub of the wheel.

What is the answer?

There is no easy answer,

no complete answer.

I have only clues,

shells from the sea.”

She goes on to use sea shells in beautiful life analogies.

I hope you add it to your book list…

along with a trip to the nearest beach.

The Glory of It All…or The True Rewards

Moving towards “the young adult years”…

many people frequently question…

if Leadership Education-based “children”

really, really, really do want to study

and study some more?

Do they honestly

take the initiative…

to engage in community and social endeavors?

And the answer to each of these questions is…

hang on…

let’s take a look.

Question #1?

Yes.

They will find a passion…

begin to study it..

research it some more…

and go deeper still.

Example:

Perhaps they happen to love Shakespeare.

They attend a Folger Institute workshop…

act in a couple of plays…

read the Folger website…

notice the Complete Arkangel Shakespeare audio…

of all of the plays.

It’s $600.00

Gulp.

They get a great job.

It’s a temporary one…

that involves long hours…

hot days…

moving tons of equipment…

more heat.

They bank the money…

and begin searching…

searching…

searching…

online…

for the best possible deal.

SCORE!

They find the above complete works…

for $350.0o!

It’s a celebration much like Christmas!

Question #2…

What about Social Leadership?

The Haitian earthquake relief effort is a very slow go.

Son #1 is contacted…

about contributing some form of art piece…

to an auction that will benefit said effort.

Here is the work in progress…

a guitar case for “around town gigs.”

Here’s the point.

So many times…

we can tend to hit the “default” button…

and panic big time

once they “reach a certain age.”

After all…

what does a scholar age youth really look like?

Isn’t there a “magic age?’

Shouldn’t my kid “be there by now?”

“What about performance levels?”

These are all stipulations…

false expectations…

and requirements…

that we place on ourselves.

Or worse yet…

on others.

There has to be a “magic age”…

“moment”…

or “formula”…

that really affirms me…

and proves that this works.

It validates my work…

my effort…

my huge insecurities…

that somehow…

I’m failing if my kid…

isn’t (blank) by (blank).

When these kids were placed in my arms…

many moons ago…

the fact is…

I didn’t know them.

I had to build even basic trust.

Then work on relationships.

And each one of them…

has been unique.

Who would’ve ever known…

that a very shy…

introverted..

set-in-his-ways…

little boy…

would one day…

feel completely at home…

on a stage?

Or that yet another would have an incredible artistic bent?

See…

the idea is that you eventually become so comfortable…

with the ideologies and methodologies…

of Leadership Education…

that regardless of what other people deem…

as the “appropriate timeline”…

you are comfortable sitting back…

continuing to work the Keys…

and honor the Phases…

so that each individual under your care…

feels comfortable exploring…

and eventually pursuing…

with fervor and zeal…

exactly what they were meant to be and do.

It’s difficult to cultivate this kind of faith.

There’s no doubt about it.

And so many well meaning individuals…

are prepared to weigh in…

with what they feel is best.

Or offer well meaning advice…

in the form of comparisons.

Hold out, dear mentor!

If you cling to the organic…

making yourself a student…

and trust the process…

the true glory of it all…

will reveal itself!

And one of the true rewards…

is in realizing…

that many times…

the individuals under your care…

surprise even you with glimpses…

of who they really are…

versus what the masses…

and the well intentioned…

thought was there!

It is, indeed…

a priceless dividend.

May you be diligent to reap those rewards!
TeriSig



Motherhood In Core Phase: It’s Definitely Not for Wimps

Son #5 decided to pull a “near-all-nighter.”

Apparently…

being in a position to be “nearly nine”

developmentally revealed…

that he had a lot on his mind.

Which in turn…

prompted me to have a lot on mine.

I’d like to say it was a sweet bonding moment…

but that would most definitely be a lie.

Come about 4:30 a.m. …

all semblance of Mother Theresa…

and a calm caring demeanor…

vanished almost instantaneously from the bedroom.

Enter Sister Mary Shwarzeneggar.

He got the message…

and drifted off into a peaceful sleep.

Right about the time…

mine was originally scheduled to end!

I think…

one of my greatest strengths as TommyMom...

is the fact that I have children…

whose ages…

range all over the board.

Therefore…

I can easily relate to most all of you…

that are kind enough to follow along.

I have one that is legally and developmentally…

over six months into the journey of “full-fledged adulthood”.

Another that is nearly there…

yet another that is…

to quote him…

“the middle child in every way”…

and two bringing up the rear!

I would like to expound…

(apparently Monday’s soapbox isn’t entirely gone)

on a couple of observations regarding Motherhood.

And hopefully…

encourage you stalwart…

steadfast…

nearly-next-to-sainthood….

women…

that you, indeed, matter.

That your influence and the work you’re doing…

is eternal.

It affects and will continue to affect…

people you most likely…

will never meet here on this earth…

that make up future generations of your family tree.

However…

with that profound thought in mind…

have you ever noticed?…

That people that are absolutely GUSHING…

about how “THIS”…

is undoubtedly their favorite age…

Are generally now themselves…

so physically and emotionally “mature”…

(okay, O-L-D)

that they aren’t actually living with “THIS”…

day in and day out?

24/7?…

365?…

Example?…

This one just screams of “THAT” age…

doesn’t it?

Or what about this?

And so that we aren’t gender specific…


What so many of these well meaning individuals…

are failing to recall…

is that any one of the above situations…

could occur….

while you were simply…

heeding “Nature’s Call!”

And somehow…

if you actually listened to that prompt…

and any or all of the above occurred…

you should be turned in…

to some higher authority…

who most likely…

doesn’t have kids!

Oh, yes, dear readers…

I.get.it.

And judging by Son #5′s…

“revert” button…

that was so aptly displayed…

I have a few more things…

to experience and learn…

in the world defined as “Motherhood.”

There is no vocation on this planet…

that will bring you to your knees more quickly!

Just ask any unsuspecting individual…

including “Dad”…

that has just spent the day…

with a house full of kids.

Here’s the great news!

There is no more noble endeavor!

Keep priming the pump!

Water and nuture those seeds!

They become this…

and this…

yes, even this…

which brings me to this…

Where the process of priming…

planting…

and nurturing…

all continue.

And with time…

effort…

lots of input…

and prayer…

produce…

fun-loving, responsible…

delightful, leadership based…

loyal…

grounded…

individuals..

well on their way to statesmanship.

Press on, Moms…

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 NIV

Now until Friday…

I’m going to attempt to get some sleep!
TeriSig








TommyMom: Your One Stop Networking Resource

When someone embarks upon the journey of entering the blogosphere…

there is a lot to consider.

What if it doesn’t work?

Worse yet…

what if people hate what you’re doing…

and it doesn’t work?

Will you have enough to talk about…

week in and week out?

Clearly this particular obstacle isn’t an issue for me.

But…

once again…

what if it really doesn’t work?

I am grateful and somewhat ecstatic to report…

so far so good in the TommyMom world!

The readership is amazing…

and you interact.

How fortunate…

can one Mom-of-5-Sons be?!

To top it off…

this development arose two days ago.

Scenario #1:

The following texts appear on my phone from +1 (503) 956-29…

“Hey Teri, can you send me the contact information…

for your friend up here in Washington…

that used to raise Brown Swiss cattle?”

Who in the heck IS this?!

“We want to get some for our dairy.

Things are really growing!

You should come up to one of our Family Movie Night on the Farm events.

Thanks!”

Searching, searching mental files…

“Thank you so much!

We are going to be making artisan cheeses…”

Will and Vernie DeMille!

Oh my word!

A few minutes later…

I’m dutifully dialing.

“Good Morning, Good Samaritan Hospital…

may I help you?”

“Yes, can you please connect me with Diana Gr—-?”

“I can, but would you care to have her direct line?!

Good grief.  I don’t recall ever calling DeDe at a “real” job before.

“That would be great, thanks.”

“Good Morning, this is Diana in some-department-that-has-to-do-with-charity…

but-is-too-long-to-print-here-or-remember”…

“DeDe?”

“Hey!”

“This is not an emergency.”

I thought that that was at least a loving thing to clarify…

since this feat of calling at work was a first.

“What’s up?”

“Can you possibly tell me where I can locate some Brown Swiss cattle?”

Hysterical peals of laughter.

“This is for real, Diana.  Stop laughing.”

“You’re serious?”

“Dead.”

Launch into explanation of who Will and Vernie DeMille are…

what they’re doing…

how much I admire and love them…

and the immediate need for this particular cattle breed.

The response?

“Artisan cheeses!  Why, they couldn’t have chosen a more appropriate breed!

Did you know that the butter fat content…

and the milk solid percentile in a Brown Swiss yield is”…

“Um, DeDe”…

“Blah, blah, blah…

the Brown Swiss…

blah, blah, blah…”

DIANA”

Yes?”

“This is ME you’re speaking to right now…

NOT the DeMilles!

Please give them a call!”

“Okay!

“I’ve got a meeting…

gotta run! Love You!”

Approximately 2 hours later:

“Hello, Mrs. Helms…

This is Piper Ch— from the Lifestream Administrative Offices…

We’ve been reading your blog…

ever since you’ve featured us in your community responsibility piece.”

Is this a joke?!?

“We’re wondering if you are amenable to participating…

along with your sons…

in our current campaign launch…

that just premiered in Palm Springs Life.”

Apparently it.is.not.

“It’s entitled…

Blead by Example’

We would like to feature you and the boys…

and want to schedule a photo shoot in our studio.

Could you please call us back?

We are particularly interested in highlighting your family…

this Leadership Education philosophy…

and your blog…

entitled TommyMom.”

I informed the boys of this “once in a lifetime” opportunity yesterday.

Son #3′s reaction last night…

while I was trying to go to sleep.

“So what exactly is this photo shoot for?”

“I have no clue…

other than it is a fantastic opportunity…

to highlight Leadership Education…

and bring awareness to community responsibility.”

And just for kicks and potential reaction..

“And to possibly see your picture in a bus stop somewhere.”

“WHAT?!?”

“Good night, Son.”

“Very funny, Madre.”

The Conclusion(s):

So today, we participated in a very fun…

completely awesome…

professional photo shoot…

at a real studio…

the by product of which…

was tear jerking…

impactive…

powerful…

and well, possibly quite something else!

So Piper…

What exactly do you do with these photos?”

“Well, any number of things are possibilities, Mrs. Helms.

Brochures…

Facebook…

Our LifeStream website…

LAMAR billboards…

Vehicle wraps for 11 of our vehicles”…

GULP. Oh. my. word.

“Pssst….

Son!

About that bus stop!”…

I’ve decided that I will just sit here through the upcoming weekend…

very possibly taking my cues from this iconic operator…


and see what other possibilities are lurking on the horizon…

or who else possibly needs to be “hooked up”…

in the TommyMom world!

Feel free to phone in or write now…

“The Operator”…

is standing by!
TeriSig






“A Plan”

“Deep summer is when laziness finds respectability.”  ~Sam Keen

I’ve received a lot of feedback about planned neglect.

I’m so glad that it has been helpful.

I know that for us…

it was revolutionary.

Perhaps we need to get out more.

Nevertheless…

it sets a level of expectation…

while also “breaking normal rules”…

and puts it all out there…

so that once you’re “deep in the throes” of said event…

no one can say they weren’t informed!

But what about those things that…

you need to…

well…plan?

We’re nearly to the middle of the summer.

Yep.

Before you know it…

the fall will be here!

In all of its splendor…

in all of its glory…

with all of its pursuits…

demands…

along with the reminder…

that the holidays are literally…

just around the next corner!

So for today…

may I inquire…

as to what have you planned?

You know…

“when summer gets here I’m going to…

we will…

I’m definitely tackling”…

You fill in the blanks!

It is true that laziness finds respectability in this season.

But it also lends itself to opportunities…

and pursuits…

that, at other times of the year…

we just simply don’t find the time…

to get around to accomplishing!

I would love to hear what you have planned…

aside from vacations…

that is intentional…

productive…

and yes…

even somewhat lazy!

I’ll share first!

Finish 4 books that I’ve started but haven’t yet completed.

Read at least two more besides the above that I’ve had my eye on!

Weed out gently used items and take to the thrift store.

Reorganize ( fill in the blank…I have about 6 things to do before the summer ends!)

Keep small, container garden efforts alive.

Huge feat for me as I’m convinced Morticia Addams lurks somewhere in my family tree…

and gave the lack of gardening gene to me!

Have several “do nothing” days.

The definition of these varies from individual to individual…

but if you’re a mom, you know what I mean!

A few items off of Sons #4 and #5 lists:

Go to the Davis family’s house for a day of fellowship and swimming.

Take a clay class with Mr. Elliott at the Heritage Museum

Really see some other friends that live farther away.

“Not like when bigger people say ‘We should really get together’ all of the time.”

Point well taken.

Go to Disneyland lots of times with friends.

“Define lots of times with a real number, boys.”

Finish reading the two books we’ve started.

Play Super Mario cart every day.

Hold the phone, gentleman!

I’m happy to report…

that we’re well on our way…

sans Mario Cart every day!

Because while being “lazy” is very much needed…

so is being respectable come Fall!

How about you?

Care to share?

I can’t wait to be inspired by your comments!
TeriSig




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