“There Ain’t No Quick Fix”: Part One

The following is Part One of an excellent keynote address delivered by Dr. Shanon Brooks on April 13, 2004. Dr. Brooks will be speaking at the Thomas Jefferson Leadership Education Forum ( FATJEF) in Rancho Cucamonga, CA on April 24.  I hope that you will take the time to read this.  In fact, print it and save it to refer to often.  It is an excellent challenge to each of us. Part Two will be featured Monday. ~ TommyMom

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THERE AIN’T NO QUICK FIX

Dr. Shanon Brooks

In the immortal words of Jerry McGuire, “we live in a cynical world.”  We also live in a surreal environment of entitlement, enlargement, enticement, fat blasting and muscling up.  With the baby boomers refusing to grow old and a very individualist Generation X, it is little wonder everyone is looking for that miracle cure, the solution in a bottle; a quick fix.

In this “blame everyone else”, “I want my fair share”, “I deserve it” world, we are looking for the fountain of youth of “quick fixes” (and spending in the search, hundreds of thousands of hours of time and literally billions of dollars).  We can’t really help it, it

surrounds us in the media and entertainment, it is the new morality taught in our schools and churches.  This search for the “quick fix” is the new (old) American approach to marriage and the modern family, personal and corporate finance, functions of government and domestic and foreign policy.

The search for the “quick fix” impacts the food we eat and how we eat our food.  It controls our attitudes about just about everything we do and think.  It is the antithesis of patience, compound interest, traditional white weddings, Olympic gold earned on sheer will, delayed gratification, courting, “wait and see” and “building for the next generation.”

The last three generations of Americans have suffered immensely from this search, but I fear, nothing like the current generation, which has little or no mooring to the ancient bulwark of principle. The more we turn “otherward” the less we are satisfied with paying the price to have, live or be satisfied with the who or how we are and moving forward from that “plot of ground which is given to [us] to till.”  No, we will continue to dream today, with no effort, for that which our grandparents spent a life time living to acquire, and never securing the knowledge that they possess—that the joy is not in the getting, but in the living towards.

In education (not schooling mind you), we make huge strides in the direction of entering on the path of becoming true liberal artists, only to be sucked out to sea with the tsunami undertow of public opinion and fear of pain.  The truth is, unless we can resolve to just be honest with ourselves, our attempts at Liber Education will end up in little more than slightly higher mediocrity.  There is a price to pay to get a superb leadership education, and in our day everyone seems bent on finding a short cut.

Acquiring a liberal arts education is likely to be the most difficult and painful thing you have ever attempt in your entire existence.  It impacts every aspect of your domestic, religious and professional life. If you are alone in this endeavor, you will be chastised, ridiculed, gossiped about, made fun of, and left out.  You will spend hours upon hours in solitude studying books that nobody you know has ever heard of.  People will say, “While I admire your effort, what kind of job can you get with that?”

But it gets worse.  First, if you are unfortunate enough to have a support group to study with, then the going really gets rough.  Whenever two or more people get together to study (without a world class liberal arts mentor), to gain a liberal arts education, it is nearly always a failure before it begins.  Immediately they start to make it easier by distributing the workload, dividing the reading up between themselves so they can “share the experience”.  This is anathema in most cases.  It is like trying to build muscle mass on your own body by having one person work out their own legs, another doing their own biceps and so on.  It might be a great work out, but you gain little from the exercise.

Second, it is so tempting to find anything claiming to be connected with Thomas Jefferson Education and just adopt it as the real thing.  It often costs less and always requires less.  “The easier, the better” seems to be our national motto. And we are

tempted to apply it to our education just like every other aspect of modern life.  After hearing great mentors promote superb but gut-wrenching hard education, we are so thrilled when someone comes along with the “quick fixed” short cut version.

Third, particularly if you are working with youth, you will naturally begin to look for ways to streamline and mainstream the curriculum, easing the youth into the educational process. You do this so you can impact more youth and help them improve their minds.  But this is a little like watering down the Kool-Aid so everyone can have some; they all get a drink but nobody ever knows what Loonie Lime truly tastes like.   Remember, we do all of this with the best intentions, with vigorous efforts to ensure balance and good feelings all around—at the sacrifice of sound principles of extremely hard work, missed

games and parties, nights crying in frustration, and mornings dawning with new and solid realization and resolve.   This protected, “take the hardness out”approach to education,

especially applied to acquiring a liberal arts education, results in the following

natural consequences as summarized by Ralph Waldo Emerson:

If our young men miscarry in their first enterprises they loose all heart.  If the young

merchant fails, men say he is ruined.  If the finest genius studies at one of our colleges and is not installed in an office within one year afterwards in the cities or suburbs of Boston or New York, it seems to his friends and to himself that he is right in being disheartened and complaining the rest of his life.  A sturdy lad from New Hampshire or Vermont, who in turn tries all the professions, who teams it, farms it, peddles, keeps a school, preaches, edits a newspaper, goes to Congress, buys a township and so forth, in successive years, and always like a cat falls on his feet, is worth a hundred of these city dolls.

Aristotle to Augustine, Homer to Shakespeare, Adler to Hutchinson, Barzun to Lewis, Dickens to L’Amour—it is always the same.  True Leadership- Statesmanship comes out of none other than pain, struggle with God and self, tenacity and hard, long study. This concept is no where better discussed than by Mortimer Adler in his essay Invitation to the Pain of Learning:

One of the reasons why education given by our schools is so frothy and vapid is that the American people generally—the parent more than the teacher—wish childhood to be unspoiled by pain.  Childhood must be a period of delight, of [happy] indulgence [of] impulses.  It must be given every avenue of unimpeded expression, which of course is pleasant; and it must not be made to suffer the impositions of discipline or the exactions of duty, which of course are painful. . . What lies behind my remark is a distinction between two views of education.

In one view, education is something externally added to a person, as his clothing or other accoutrements.  We cajole him into standing there willingly while we fit him; and in doing this we must be guided by his likes and dislikes, by his notion of what enhances his appearance.  In the other view, education is an interior transformation of a person’s mind and character.  He is plastic material to be improved not according to his inclinations, but according to what is good for him.  But because he is a living thing, and not dead clay, the transformation can be effected only through his own activity.

Teachers of every sort can help, but they can only help in the process of learning that must be dominated at every moment by the activity of the learner.   And the fundamental activity that is involved in every kind of genuine learning is intellectual activity, the activity generally known as thinking.   Any learning which takes place without thinking is necessarily of the sort I have called external and additive—learning passively acquired, for which the common name is “information.” Without thinking, the kind of learning which transforms a mind, gives it new insights, enlightens it, deepens understanding, [and] elevates the spirit, simply cannot occur.

Anyone who has done any thinking, even a little bit, knows that it is painful.  It is hard

work—in fact the very hardest that human beings are ever called upon to do.  It is fatiguing, not refreshing.  If allowed to follow the path of least resistance, no one would ever think.

You do not need it easier.  You don’t.  My colleagues and I often hear people who are learning about Thomas Jefferson Education  saying things like: “that just won’t work,” “we don’t have time,” “you just can’t expect that out of teenagers,” “it’s crazy to study so much,” or our favorite: “I liked this other seminar better because the lady giving it made

Thomas Jefferson Education so much easier.”  Great mentors hate that one—they work so hard getting people to put in the hard work, and then someone with the excited flush from eight months of reading classics goes around teaching people the “easier road”

to a great education.  What a waste!

No, what we need in our homes and in our generation is for our education to be much, much harder.  The strength and fortitude for the completion of a future mission is never developed within the comforts of our “Comfort Zone.”  It is incumbent on parents and mentors of the youth to embody the “leadership arts” standard, profoundly articulated by

Josiah Bunting:

Mentors must embody the qualities of character we wish to educe in our students.  When we say ‘educe,’ we mean draw forth . . . be paragons of the sort of excellence we want our students to learn.  And not only learn, but to become . . . . These men and women, these mentors, are themselves unfinished persons.  They are to be strivers, searchers, tenaciously engaged in their work.

This is just as true today as it was in the times of great mentors like Moses, Socrates, Christ, and George Wythe.  It was Sir Walter Scott who wrote, “All men who have turned out worth anything, have had the chief hand in their own education.”

Power: A Leadership Education Definition in Action

Dambisa Moyo-Power

There’s simply no doubt about it.  This girl has “got it goin’ on!’  Normally, when I am “out and about” on errands; I make certain to take my own reading material with me. I did yesterday as well.  When I sat down to wait for an appointment, however, this article caught my eye…

It was on women and how they perceive and practice “power.”

As you know, I am always looking for stellar examples of Leadership Education in action.

They reinforce and encourage.

DAMBISA MOYO: THE POWER OF GOING AGAINST THE GRAIN

Economist and provocateur

Who would ever suggest that aid to Africa might be a bad thing?  Dambisa Moyo would.  Born and raised in Zambia, the 40-year-old Harvard-and Oxford-educated economist has gotten the world’s attention with her stark message:  Systemic aid to Africa  (aid from institutions  such as governments or the World Bank) breeds corruption and dependence–and must stop.  Her thesis, laid out in her best selling book, Dead Aid,

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has met with acclaim and criticism, but there’s no doubt it’s challenging conventional wisdom about the relationship between developed and underdeveloped nations.  She explains the art of agreeing to disagree…

If you question aid to Africa, as I did, you’re quickly labeled racist or insensitive or extremist.  People use inflammatory language; they say your arguments are foolish, stupid, cruel.  But if you ask, “Would you prefer we live in the status quo?” you get a silence.

Part of power is emphasizing what everyone agrees on, accepting other views so you can create a comfort zone of respect and have more space to influence people’s thinking.  In my work, the conversation is too often You’re against aid and I’m for aid, when it should be We all want to see Africa break its dependence on aid. Real power comes from making everyone feel that they’re on the same page.

Beautiful.

I will definitely be reading this book.TeriSig


I’m Glad You Asked!

We concluded last week on Good Friday with heavy thoughts.

I trust that you had a blessed Easter weekend with family and friends.

Sunday morning, the black shroud cloth is removed, and bursts of beautiful color

are the greeting for the day.

We celebrate with JOY!

Jesus has risen!

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New life, new season, new hope!

Again, I hope you celebrated well.

I heard a mind-boggling statistic yesterday.

Google gets 3 billion inquiries a day!

Seriously.

I couldn’t help but think that this is right up there…

with the number that mothers of Core and Love of Learners get nearly daily as well!

In light of this…

I began to ponder the power of questions.

There are at least three types that are integral to a healthy Leadership Education.

Retrospective, Introspective and those involving Circumspect.

Retrospective questions and evaluations involve the past.

They look at time and events and evaluate their merit, the lessons that were learned…

the situations that taught.

Hopefully, it is a time to evaluate things from a healthy perspective and not one of self condemnation…

or the condemnation of others.

Individuals aspiring to good, solid leadership see circumstances as opportunities to become better…

stronger…

more effective.

A second type of question or inquiry would be introspective.

This entails personal examination mentally, emotionally and physically.

It is mainly concerned with one’s own personal thoughts and feelings…

rather than the environment.

This definitely involves some discipline and vision.

So many times, we tend to default to another individual…

person…

group…

to build our leadership communities, our accountability groups, our colloquia venues.

But the reality is…

it is our responsibility.

In order for these to be healthy and to thrive, the introspective piece is so important.

Are you educating yourself…

rather than constantly worrying about others?

This would include your own children.

What are you reading?

Are you instrumental in taking the initiative…

and contributing to the building of community in your area?

Or are you waiting for someone else to do it for you?

Last, but most definitely not least…

we need to consistently keep a pulse on the circumspect.

This action involves analyzing what is going on around you…

which would entail the commitment to actually looking!

Do you choose healthy environments…

where “iron is sharpening iron” in the personal relationships that are cultivated with time and effort?

Are you watchful…

discreet…

and prudent…

where the things concerning your time and efforts are concerned?

Good leaders  or those aspiring to be…

will ask these questions often.

We are blessed to have a family in our area that models excellent stewardship with their resources.

Twice a year, they share of their abundance with community.

These are amazing events to participate in.

Saturday’s, of course, involved Easter.

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Beginning with a huge egg hunt.

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Accompanied by industrial bounce houses and games…

also brought in for the children.

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There are friends…

many of whom you only see at these bi-annual events.

There are “strangers” as well…

lending the opportunity to practice a community atmosphere…

that celebrates the old…

and embraces the new.

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And the food…

always the same fare…

is amazing!

When this party gets started, hundreds converge.

Because this family understands that building community…

through sharing and generosity…

be it materially or mentally…

builds relationships.

And those relationships discuss…

ruminate…

question…

and bring about change.

How long has it been since you’ve asked these questions?

These particular ones don’t involve Google.

But when they’re practiced…

they change the world!

TeriSig




How Does Your Viewpoint of Education “Sound?”, the “rap” up!

We, okay, I…have been “boldly going where no mom I have never rarely gone before” this week, in my commentary and analogy of Jay -Z and his “Hip-Hop Homies.”  It’s been exhilarating.  Join me now as I conclude this “love fest” and move on to, perhaps, POLKA analogies…that could very well commence next week!

On day one of this extraordinary dialogue, in which Son #1 threw down the gauntlet for his “madre”…

I asked some questions.

Regarding Jay-Z, Alicia Keyes, Beyonce…

and my near total ignorance thereof.

If you don’t mind, I would like to answer those questions today…

thus concluding this near out-of-body…

(and most definitely out of mind) experience!

Hero Hubby and I are asked quite frequently how we got “so lucky” …

in having such “great kids.”

I didn’t and still don’t…

see luck anywhere in this equation.

There really aren’t any bells and whistles involved in Leadership Education.

Honest.

In fact, in and of itself, it is so liberating, “free wheeling”, and organic in nature…

as it pertains to referencing “the norms”…

that when you embark on the initial journey to undertake living the keys and phases…

you can tend to feel somewhat like you’re free falling…

from about 7,000 feet up!

I’m not going to deny that at times I’ve been scared…

and given the proper situation in relatively uncharted waters…

I can still at times…

succumb to this emotion.

Everyone wants to be accepted…

understood…

validated…

and considered somewhat “successful.”

And sometimes…

mostly the “time” when you’re standing in that “alone” phase…

without the manufactured educational experiences…

and the false environment that goes along with it…

that warm, fuzzy feeling of belonging is strangely absent…

right along with your confidence to persevere!

Darn.

But here is what I do know…

a lot of years into our journey.

The most important impetus for true education…

begins and ends with relationships.

So…

I really, really do care.

I must if I want relationships to thrive.

My kids are “most excellent” human beings.

(Quoting “Crush” from the pop-culture movie, Finding Nemo)

But they are also pretty “normal.”

In fact…

many people that don’t home educate tell them this frequently…

and they laugh and take it as a compliment!

They are those “good, conscientious students” that I posed a question about Monday.

They also care about the pop culture…

as it relates to their culture…

and generation.

And this is something that I simply can’t relate to on their level…

or with their effectiveness.

Because I wasn’t placed into it…

I was called to my own.

And with my life experience, and my skill sets and mission…

I don’t personally see my job as one that yells…

“Circle the Wagons!”…

every time I see or hear something that I simply “don’t get.”

Or possibly don’t want to!

My job is to be a seeker of truth…

an example of truth…

someone that embraces truth.

So that when the culture beckons with the “latest and the greatest”…

my kids know truth so well…

that they can discern…

see…

and recognize it for themselves.

And choose to engage their generation accordingly.

Here at TommyMom…

we don’t try to harp on the “don’ts”…

but rather to engage the “do’s.”

It’s my job to embrace my children’s place in history…

while giving them a home environment that is anchored in the experience of my own.

To cultivate and nurture relationships with them…

their peers…

and the people that engage them in their Great Conversation.

Then I have the greatest impact.

And in choosing to reach out…

and build a community of like-minded yet diverse individuals…

that desire the same…

I have a choir of “back up singers”…

that validate my willingness to stand alone…

should the need arise.

There’s no doubt about it…

commitment to Community  produces a

“Leadership Fest”…

where the exchange of ideas…

the fellowship…

the camaraderie…

can impact and change the world!

Now there’s something worth manufacturing!

TeriSig

p.s.  Small Disclaimer:  The only “polka” that you will experience on TommyMom is perhaps a photo of a cute bag, a pair of pants, a nice shirt or top…with “polka” dots!  WHEW!  Glad I got that cleared up!

Tune in Monday…when we answer “frequently asked questions” about the Facebook colloquia on “Dead Aid”, by Dambisa Moyo.  You want to join us…really, you do.  Order or check out your copy today!





Observance

Observance: The act of observing; the act of keeping or adhering to in practice: performance…


I am old.

At least that’s what my lovely Sons tell me quite often!

Funny, isn’t it, how every generation perceives those that go before them?

The fact of the matter is, in some ways, I probably am.

I am “old” enough to remember when Good Friday was an observance in this country, whether you were “religious” or not.

Schools were out for the day.

Businesses closed…

whether for a half day or full.

As our society continues to get busier and busier, there are many observances that just seem to go by the wayside.

Good Friday and the contemplation of Holy Week would be one of them.

I have my dear friend, Beth Lambdin to thank for today’s inspiring post.

She is the product of a Leadership Education…

and is raising the 6 of her 7 children remaining at home in the same fashion.

They are a family that is rich in everything that matters.

They’re leaders.

She and her husband, Dan, founded a Christian high school together in the Stockton area years ago.

They have chosen to home educate their children until high school age…

and then send them to this school.

We will eventually be hearing from her personally here on TommyMom.

However, at the moment, she is up to her eyeballs in an annual fundraiser.

Allow me to “show and tell” some of her family traditions that we have also adopted…

in order to practice observance…

reverence…

honor and respect.

For those that are Christians, this is Good Friday…

The “end” of Holy Week.

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Here, on our dining room table, is a simple yet powerful reminder of what this week means for followers of Christ.

Each evening, one of the candles is lit, in order to commemorate a day leading up to the Crucifixion.

Tomorrow morning, we will light a candle in the cross as well.

Then, we will read the account of the Crucifixion from the Bible in Matthew 27…

starting at verse 11 and going through to the end of the chapter.

Once this is completed…

we will discuss and contemplate what we’ve just read.

Then, we will cover the candles in the shape of the Cross…

and the Cross itself with a black cloth.

I want my family to ponder the tenents of our faith…

and the sacrifice that was made for them.

Drawing the blinds and simulating darkness is also very powerful.

It’s hard to ask young children to be still and think for a long period of time.

Beth had many preschoolers at one time and came up with a great solution.

This movie…

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Is 3 hours and 30 minutes in length.

It is a poignant depiction of the Crucifixion as well as the culture at the time.

We will watch this together.

Another tradition that the Lambdins have is Maunday Thursday.

They choose to clean their house spotless…

telling their children all the while that “this is part of the celebration”…

and observe a Passover Seder.

Regardless of your faith base…

it is my hope that you will observe…

reflect…

take in the parallels to those that were there at the Crucifixion.

They had placed their faith on something that was seemingly dying…

and eventually dead.

There was huge emotion, angst, and doubt involved.

When it was all over…

I’m quite certain that a feeling of futility enveloped many.

Doubt brought questions like…

Was I wrong to believe?

Am I foolish?

Did I place faith and trust in something or someone that was, indeed, wrong?

We’ve all been there as humans.

We will undoubtedly be there again.

Life is difficult.

No, at times, it is downright hard.

Issues arise and emotions run high.

People betray others and hurt…

both intentionally and unintentionally.

However, standing on truth is what matters.

Even when others don’t…

or simply won’t.

And when you know you’re doing the right thing in this life…

you can always rest on the fact…

that Sunday’s comin’!
TeriSig



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