Legacy isn’t primarily created in the glory-filled moments. Rather, it is consistent and simply choices that are significant that produces it day by day.
Challenges bring out so many things in folks.
People who have been involved in past “battles” sometimes tap back into the emotions surrounding those battles.
Others who are afraid by nature, tend to let that fear get the better of them, even if only temporarily.
Some just like to complain, because if they don’t have something to complain about, they would complain about it!
Still others like to exaggerate their plight in hopes that they will be seen as high achievers when the dilemmas get worked out.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not underestimating things that happen to create stress. It is very real, and when it occurs; hopefully it can’t be attributed to you!
My point is…
none of the actions above provide anything that is closer to a solution.
They might make us feel better temporarily…
but often times they only fail to move us forward.
Make no mistake…
they are contagious and self-perpetuating.
Months later…
you can hear people lamenting about the same things…
in the same ways…
and they’re still no closer to a solution.
It’s an energy drainer!
In addition…
these types of actions can steal the optimism that others have as well.
I want to remind you of some things:
1. Mentoring/Coaching without compassion, is either bribery or bullying.
You have to have compassion for people’s plights.
I know that I don’t want to ever be accused of not being “people focused.”
However, in the midst of being people focused…
2. Try to steer clear of Quick Solutions.
Most importantly–
If you are solving all of the problems…
other people aren’t learning how to solve them.
Your job does not include solving everyone’s problems for them.
Teaching them that sometimes waiting for things to settle…
or taking the time for a longer range solution…
will not only save time in the long run…
it is often far more effective and is just good mentoring/coaching.
3. Allow for individuality…
that gets the desired results.
People aren’t always going to do things the way we want them to…
but as long as it isn’t in blatant disregard for policy or authority…
people need to put their own brand on how they perform.
This only emphasizes the last point even more.
Productive problem solving is then just one more thing…
that individuals can put their mark on…
with your guidance!
By modeling confidence and consistency…
you set the example for how you want others to respond to uncertainty.
I am reminded of a quote that sums it up!
“In a crisis, don’t hide behind anything or anybody. They are going to find you anyway.”
Thanks for all you do for kids,
Tim
Wow, so very true! I love point 1. It got me thinking about how I lead my children. Compassion is huge. Thank you for sharing this Teri.
~Rachel
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Teri Reply:
February 12th, 2013 at 11:16 pm
I have no doubt that you lead your children with grace and beauty, my friend. XO, ;0)
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