The Meaning of Hanukkah

December 20th marks the beginning of the observance of Hanukkah this year.  It is my privilege to know a Rabbi and his wife in our area.  His explanation of Hanukkah presented here, is not only beautiful, but informative.  It’s timeless message never grows old.


The principles of Leadership Education…

are based in the fact…

that people choose

to educate themselves.

One of the major benefits…

is the encouragement…

that you will strive to understand others…

and where they are coming from…

so that together…

you can change the world.

The following…

is an explanation of Hanukkah..

by Rabbi Yonason Denebeim…

that was presented…

in the Palm Springs area…

for a group of Leadership Education children…

and their families.

Rabbi Denebeim…

and his wife Sussie…

live in Palm Springs.


They are the parents…

of 14 children…

eight daughters…

and six sons.

He is a Rabbi of Chabad…

which is a form…

of Orthodox Judaism.

They have grown children…

on every continent of the world…

with the exception of Antarctica.

They are an exceptional family…

and I have had the distinct privilege…

of being a guest in their home…

when their grown children…

and their families…

have been present.

Their children and grandchildren…

are fluent in several languages.

In fact…

some of their grandchildren…

don’t speak English.

I consider myself blessed…

to call them my friends.

One of my greatest…

Face to Face With Greatness memories…

was when I was a part…

of a book colloquium…

that Sussie Denebeim…

also attended…

on “The Chosen.”

Having her perspective…

was life changing…

and very illuminating…

where that particular book…

and the history of the Jews…

is concerned.

Gaylene Hatch…

our Face to Face moderator…

and I…

thought her insights…

were worth the entire seminar!

This explanation…

is lengthy.

It is also rich…

in information…

insight…

and knowledge.

Because of this…

I will use…

a traditional format….

for the remainder…

of this post.

It is well worth reading.

At the end…

I will share with you…

a simple way…

to help your family…

understand Hanukkah better.

May Hanukkah…

be a wonderful…

festival of light…

for all of my…

Jewish readers…

and friends!

My sincerest thanks…

to Rabbi Denebeim…

for being…

a bridge building…

human being.

May God richly bless you.

“The purpose of  Hanukkah, is to remind us that we are to drive the darkness that is in the world away, with light.  My explanation is based in the history of the Jewish people and the traditional and historical significance of Hanukkah to us as a nation.  You see, it really isn’t about the American version of Hanukkah, which involves giving gifts for eight nights.

Judaism believes that the most important reason for being on this earth isn’t to get to heaven.  We believe in heaven….after all, where do you think everyone gets this idea and belief from…if it isn’t the Jews?  But what we believe is that it is our responsibility to bring heaven down to earth.  It’s about making your soul control the world around you, making the world a beautiful and Godly place.

Life and culture, at the time that the miracle we call Hanukkah took place; involved ideas and thoughts that life is all about making yourself as beautiful as possible.  This is a great thought indeed, except that the people thinking these thoughts were doing this without any acknowledgment of God; so they became beautiful specimens on the outside only.

The most important structure in Jewish history to illustrate these ideas, is the temple in Jerusalem.  It was destroyed 2,000 years ago by the Romans, but there was a temple before that called a tabernacle.  It was a special house with special furniture inside.  One of those pieces of furniture was a menorah, that had seven branches.  These branches represented the seven days of the week and the seven emotional attributes that every human possesses.  This house and furniture represented the bringing together of Godliness and the physical world.  This was not about two separate worlds, but rather to show the fact that the Creator and His physical world are one.

At this juncture of history, this obviously was a belief and thought process that were counter to the culture of the time.  At first, the fight became an intellectual one, and the Jews refused to back down.  The struggle continued, becoming more and more powerful.  Antiochus was the king at the time, and people went to him regarding the refusal on the part of the Jews to acknowledge the cultural norms.  The Jews wouldn’t bow down to the idols of the day, nor would they forsake the thought processes of their faith.  Because of this, Antiochus became very angry and sent armies and non-kosher animals into the temple and dirtied the entire place.

A high priest named Matisyahu ( yes, the kids wanted to know if it was the same name as the singer…and it is!) had seven sons.  Each of these sons had been raised with the values and principles of their father.  They were strong, and they were not afraid.  They decided that they were going to fight this king and his armies in order to protect the values which are so important to us, the Jews.  They united, along with many others against these armies and they won!

They went back into the temple and wanted to light the menorah in order to drive out the darkness.  However, they had a challenge.  Any oil used in the temple must be kosher.  What should they do?  Should they light the menorah and have it burn for a very short time, or should they wait until they could consecrate more oil and had enough to keep it burning?  The Rabbis at the time, decided it is better to do what you can now with what you have to drive the darkness away, rather than to wait.

The first miracle then, was the defeat of the powerful armies.

The second miracle was, once they lit the oil, it burned for eight days.

Perhaps you wonder why we use olive oil.

Olives are a fruit and they are totally sealed.  They aren’t like olives in the store that have been pitted.

This oil not only burns well, but it represents the potential that is in each and every human being.

Olives must be crushed in order to get the oil out; and only the first drop was ever used in the menorah in the temple.  The rest was used for other purposes.

The true wisdom and potential that you possess, must be pressed out and ignited in order to illuminate the world around you.  Another great thing, is that when you use your light to light another candle;  you don’t lose anything from your own soul.

Just like fire has the potential to bring light to weld and mend, it can also destroy.  Our responsibility is to use that energy to illuminate the world and to make the world a brighter place.

Our custom to this very day, is that we do not use candles for our menorah.  We use olive oil.

As evening falls, and darkness comes, you have the greatest ability to see light. In the temple, the menorah was lit in the morning, and it burned all day and all night.

We light one light on the first night and one each evening thereafter for eight nights.  We add another light each night.

We start from the right and move towards the left because the book of Isaiah says that God created the world with His right hand first, so we give deference to the right.  It actually means the stronger hand.  If you are left handed, that is your “right” hand.

In order for a menorah to be kosher, all eight lights have to be in a straight line on the same level.  This comes from The Torah in the book of Exodus.

There also must be enough space within the well, so that the light will burn for 45 minutes following nightfall.

We do not use wicks.  Instead, we roll pure cotton into a wick that we then place into the olive oil well.

We believe that light can also be used for the wrong reasons, and that the menorah is holy.  This is why we must not benefit from the light of the menorah itself.

In order to respect this, we have a Shamash, or helper candle.  It is pure beeswax with no paraffin.

If we were to accidentally benefit from the light, we believe that it is the Shamash or helper that we are indeed benefitting from.

As we add to the light each evening, we contemplate that whatever you do today, should be added to tomorrow; bringing more and more light and goodness into the world around you.  We are to remember to do this until we can be recharged next year.

Right inside the door of a Jewish home, on the right hand side is a box for a mezuzah.  It is a scroll that is on the doorpost at an angle, that faces into the house.

The concept here, is that I am to control what comes into and goes out of my own house.  I can dedicate my house to make sure that everything inside of it is holy, moral and ethical.  I can’t control what goes on in the street.

However, I am not to forget the street, and have a responsibility to share the light.  With this idea in mind, and obeying Talmudic Law, we place the menorah opposite the mezuzah in the doorway, so that its light can be shared.

Jews don’t try to convert others to our faith.  We believe that every person was created with a holy purpose.  This is why we also have public lightings of the menorah.  We want to share good thoughts and ideas with others.

When we light the menorah, the whole family assembles together.    We then recite three blessings while lighting the candle.

The first blessing is to thank God for making us realize our responsibility in lighting the lights of Hanukkah.  In the second blessing, we thank God for creating miracles for our forefathers both in the past and today.  We believe that time is concurrent, and in reciting this blessing, we are connecting with the energy that was present over 2,000 years ago. Our third blessing thanks God for keeping us alive and sustaining us.

It is customary for each male to light their own menorah.  Nowadays, we Skype our children and do this on each continent together.  Those physically present in each place, join hands sing and dance.

In the Old City of Jerusalem and in the alleyways, there are niches cut out in the stone with glass plates over them.  These protect the lights from the wind.  It is the most amazing sight to see thousands and thousands of menorahs all lit together throughout the city.

We also observe the giving of Hanukkah gelt.  We give money to our children, so that they may practice Sadaka; or spiritual offering.

Charity says that I will bestow goodness and kindness to others through what I have that is extra.  Sadaka practices justice and doesn’t involve extra; but is rather something that you take from yourself in order to share a part of you.  It is an obligation of Jewish law, and is a box that is attached in our synagogues, and on the walls of our home.  You give to these every day in order to practice justice towards others.

We can all practice driving the darkness away with light.”

This is so much information!

Younger children can equally benefit from it by perhaps receiving it in small increments.  What better way to do that, than to observe the nights of Hanukkah.

For those of you with Core and LOL children, the idea of fire  in this case, really MAY be dangerous!

Here is an idea for a flameless menorah.

Cover a small box, leaving one end capable of being opened.

Paint nine old-fashioned clothespins, and cut gold pipe cleaners into equal lengths, one for each clothes pin.

On each night of Hanukkah, add a “candle” to your “menorah”, lighting it with a gold pipe cleaner.



Each evening, a portion of Rabbi Denebeim’s presentation could be presented.

I know in my house it certainly will be!

I would love to know what you think…

so leave a comment, will you?
TeriSig


An Exciting and Humbling Journey

It was never a personal aspiration to blog.

I started TommyMom because my friend Sherra

along with some other individuals…

felt that I had something to say.

Some of “those other individuals”…

thought that it would be beneficial…

to share insights…

stories…

and adventures…

in educating and raising these punks stellar young men.

With a lot of coaxing, encouragement, and behind-the-scenes support…

I hit the “publish” button on that fateful day…

and sat back and sweat!

I don’t recollect entirely…

what I was expecting.

I do remember…

that my brother, Tim…

called me almost the minute…

my post hit cyberspace…

to both encourage me…

and offer me pointers.

My dear friend, Maggie Croudy…

left a comment…

a few days later.

I felt as if the floodgates had opened!

Fast forward to this past Tuesday.

I paraphrase here slightly…

but I received a message…

from a lovely cyberspace friend…

that said, “Psst…

are you aware that TommyMom

has been nominated for…

The Seventh Annual Homeschool Blog Awards?!”

I was floored.

Not only was I unaware…

but the voting has been under way for roughly two weeks!

Today…

I have had a couple of people ask how they could cast a vote.

You can click on the word vote in red on this post…

and it will take you to the link.

The voting ends today!

Yes, I have confessed…

many times…

that no one from Apple or Microsoft will be phoning me soon.

Here is what I really, really, want to convey.

I am humbled and feel incredibly blessed…

to have even been nominated!

The opportunities that being TommyMom

has afforded both me and my family…

are rich and amazing!

My boys got a PR “gig”…

with LifeStream…

as the result of a post!

Son #2…

had hundreds of people and many of you…

turn out to support baby Samuel’s blood drive…

as the result of posts.

Along the way…

I brought my brother Tim into the mix…

and you all grew to love and respect his contributions here…

and most recently…

have genuinely grieved with me and loved me…

with the news of his death.

You have been enriched through the fantastic mentoring…

of Dr. Shanon Brooks…

have gotten to know one another better…

attended The Thomas Jefferson Education Forum…

here in Southern California…

and learned to celebrate Leadership Education…

whenever and wherever it shows up!

We have laughed until we’ve cried…

shared in the comments…

and celebrated this crazy journey called life.

I have grown to love you so very much…

and appreciate the incredible diversity displayed…

and celebrated through this readership.

I received a gracious invitation from Sue Gallagher…

and Meghan Tucker, founders of Hip Homeschool Moms

to be on their team of Mom moderators and contributors.

And there are other exciting things currently in the works…

for the blog and its readership!

I am one blessed individual.

Thank you.

I mean that with all of my heart.

So…

if you have a moment…

and are desiring to vote…

know these things:

1.  There are hundreds of tremendous blogs and people behind them…

that benefit so very many things.  Build your community by reading and contributing.

Blogging is work.  It’s fun work, but it’s work.

2.  That TommyMom, is in category 19…

which is “Best Homeschool Methods Blog.”

Again…

I’m so very humbled.

I even love the category…

because I do believe in this method…

with every fiber of my being.

It’s part of why I do what I do.

You all are the other part.

I’d be honored for you to vote.

Take a look at some of the other nominees…

and categories as well, will you?

In honor of this honor…

I am going to give away…

a copy of “A Thomas Jefferson Education”…

next Monday…

to one lucky reader who leaves a comment.

Because someone asked me about the book recently…

and I think it’s always wise…

to remember “from whence one came.”

You guys rock!,
TeriSig
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That’s Classic!

Freedom isn’t free.  A heartfelt thank you to our veterans.  I honor you this day, and am grateful to you every day for the freedoms that you fought to preserve.  You have laid your lives down so that others might live.  Thank you. Love, TommyMom

 

 

So often…

we hear the title of this post…

used as slang within our society.

One of the Keys of Leadership Education…

is “Classics, Not Textbooks.”

Because we tend to love to complicate things…

rather than keep them simple…

(take it from an expert in this particular practice)…

we’d rather argue about “what a classic is”…

“who decides what can be a classic”…

and on and on and on.

Know that while the opinions here…

are definitely my own…

there are some guidelines to be considered…

as well as sources to be examined.

Classics, according to TJEd for Teens…

contain the “greatest writers and writings in history.

Classics have the very best and very worst of influential ideas…

thoughts, people,  creations, documents..

and events of all humanity.”

This would be why we refer to them as “the classics.”

They’re timeless…

they’re interesting…

they are deep…

profound…

and contain fascinating concepts.

Part of owning your own education…

regardless of who you are…

includes analyzing…

challenging…

examining…

and discussing those thoughts.

You write them down.

You write in the books.

Gasp!

Yes.

Write.in.the.books.

By committing to this practice…

and pursuing it throughout your life…

you will obtain a world-class education.

People ask all the time…

where to find classics.

Obviously…

the library would be a good start.

An in-home one…

is something every freedom-loving individual…

should definitely aspire to.

Many classics…

you will read…

re-read…

and read again.

Book chains…

have entire sections…

of the most well-known classics…

often published by their own stores.

Big box retailers carry them from time to time…

at discounted prices.

In fact…

just last weekend…

here was a glorious sight to behold…

at my own Costco…

nestled right in with current works…

sporting rock bottom prices.

TJEd for Teens has one of my absolute favorite resources…

for classics…

age appropriately listed…

along with a plan for how to read them…

re-read them…

and evaluate them in light of your personal preferences…

in order to build your own personal classics list.

Don’t let the title fool you.

It isn’t just for Teens.

I got lots of great information from it when I read it.

In fact, I called Dr. Brooks and asked him why…

they hadn’t written up the suggestions for effectively reading classics before!

He answered,” You have them now.”

Typical.

In honor of my TommyMom birthday…

I am giving away next Wednesday…

1 copy of TJEd for Teens signed by Dr. Shanon Brooks…

who co-authored this work with Dr. Oliver DeMille…

and a leather bound copy of Mark Twain which includes:

The Adventures of Tom Sawyer…

The Prince and the Pauper…

Adventures of Huckleberry Finn…

A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court…

and The Tragedy of Pudd’nHead Wilson

to two entirely different, but all-the-same-lucky winners!

To be eligible ( feel free to enter as many times as you wish!)

tell me, please…

what you’re currently reading or have just recently finished…

a favorite classic and why it is dear to you…

anything else that’s on your mind.

The Helms will go first.

TommyMom is reading:

A Thomas Jefferson Education ( for the 5th time)

to prepare for a gathering with Temecula TJEders…

who have invited me over next week!

Hey, you rockin’ Moms! Can’t wait!

One Thousand Gifts: A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are by Ann Voskamp

A Grace Disguised, How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Jerry Sittser

(which will be my life classic on grief, hands down!)

Proactive Leadership: Empowering Team Leaders by Bruce and Dana Brown

Hero Hubby:

A Grace Disguised by Jerry Sittser

The Virginian by Owen Wister  (3rd time)

Keep Going by Joseph Marshall, III ( 2nd time)

The Complete Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis

War and Peace by Tolstoy

Uncle Tom’s Cabin (4 times)

Brave New World by Aldous Huxley

1984 by Orwell

Don’t forget or discount audio books! Hands down he trumps is all for amount read each and every month!

Son #1:

Harry Potter ( 5 books in 3 weeks…addicted), and has very interesting commentary and discussion to go along with these!

The Iliad

Our Oriental Heritage by Durant

The Bible

Son #2:

Chasing Daylight by Erwin McMannus

Start Something That Matters by Blake MyCoskie, Chief Giver TOMS Shoes

A Year in the Life of William Shakespeare, 1599 by James Shapiro

A Year with Aslan: Daily Reflections in the Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis

The Bible

Son #3:

Jane Eyre ( STILL…but I’m not bitter, nor requiring…attempting to only inspire!)

The Idiot’s Guide to Cigars ( “processing deeply, as the knowledge is extensive”…direct quote)

Terminology of our Karate dojo (more on this Monday…when we also discuss the 20 page paper that was due!)

The Bible

 

Son #4:

A Series of Unfortunate Events, book 7

The Bible

Son #5:

Percy Jackson and the Olympians, book 4

The Bible

I love to see what others are reading…

or have recently read…

and to constantly add to my own continuous book list…

based on recommendations!

I look forward to seeing yours!
TeriSig

 

 

 

 

We Have a Winner!

Congratulations to #13, Morgan Knudsen!  You, my friend, are the winner of the Mother Teresa Guided Inspirations!  It includes the Illustrated Biography, Guided Journal, and Affirmation Cards with Ceramic Stand.  If you as a reader, know Miss Morgan, you know that she, of all people, has a Compassion meter that registers off the charts!  But we can all learn from an icon like Mother Teresa, regardless of where our spectrum stands! 

While in Costco this past weekend…

I came upon this sight.

I stopped and observed…

this precious little girl.

She was reading aloud…

to herself…

with a zeal and passion…

that was contagious.

The book?

“Where the Sidewalk Ends”…

by Shel Silversteen.

Okay…

in addition to observing…

I snapped a picture.

If…

in a one-in-a-trillion chance…

you are her mother…

I am not a wacko.

I was deeply moved…

by her Love of Learning.

My friend Rebecca…

summed up this Leadership Education phase…

very beautifully here.

Cultivating a Love of Learning…

in yourself first…

and modeling that for others…

is a gift that gives infinite dividends…

to the giver as well as the receiver.

And beautiful…

rich…

classics…

are key…

in that cultivation.

What is a classic?

Here is one of my favorite definitions…

according to C.S. Lewis…

“No book is really worth reading at the age of ten which is not equally – and often far more – worth reading at the age of fifty and beyond.”

Start thinking about your favorites…

and come back Friday…

prepared to contribute for yet another Giveaway!

I love birthdays!
TeriSig

 


The “Core” of the Matter

So far, Hailey has submitted the only 2 comments for the Wednesday Winner giveaway of the Mother Teresa goodies.  Really?!  I find it hard to fathom that she is the only one that has anything to say. I was just informed that it wasn’t delivered automatically to in boxes. Phooey on mail servers.  Comment until Tuesday evening at 8:00 PST and you could still win. In keeping with Friday’s theme 9 you’ll have to go back and read it, I guess)…a dear friend shared with me twice this week that her profession is suffering from “compassion fatigue.” Sadly, I find it ironic that I think I was born with it.

 

When you discuss Leadership Education…

people tend to want to rush to get to the significant stuff.

You know…

the things you can see…

and measure.

The character traits, qualities…

and personal behaviors that validate…

and prove the success of methodologies.

Much of the time…

the greatest things produced in this life…

are built through practices…

and efforts…

that simply can’t be quantified.

This gets scary.

Because, you see…

when we really get down to it…

life is full of variables.

And interruptions.

And unpredictable things.

In fact…

it’s made up of them.

Leadership Education…

as defined by Oliver DeMille…

in “A Thomas Jefferson Education”…

has 4 Phases…

and 7 Keys.

People tend to aim for the one titled Scholar.

But reality suggests…

that we live a lot of life…

in Core.

My dear friend Rebecca Brandt…

writes at  MomsMustardSeeds.com.

Today…

and for the next 2 weeks Mon.-Fri. …

she is highlighting Leadership Education.

They are excellent pieces…

and she was mentored on a conference call…

with myself and Dr. Shanon Brooks.

They are wonderful…

and I encourage you to read them.

Perhaps “I read Rebecca”…

could be one of your quick contest comments here?

Just a thought.

Because you see…

when life hits you hard…

and you honestly don’t know if you can go on…

with faith, vision…

and hope that healing will occur…

you can pause…

breathe…

build Ferris Wheels for Little Green Men…

from scratch with no pattern…

and have your mom marvel that he doesn’t tip over…

even when the wheel is cranked because he’s so balanced.

If you’re ten…

you don’t have to be brave when grief hits you…

and can lay on your mom’s bed and let tears freely flow…

while you ask really tough questions about life…

and death and people you love leaving this earth.

And if you’re 17…

and have a huge life milestone coming up this week…

along with a 20 page thesis that’s due…

you’re secure enough in your relationship with her…

that you can be very vulnerable about your personal strengths…

weaknesses, disappointments…

and what you’ve learned and are still learning through all of them.

As the “Mom”…

you realize that this journey…

is different for every individual…

and that Core phase…

done properly guarantees that things will turn out right…

because physical and spiritual relationships are healthy…

and always what matters most.

And as the “Mom”…

you realize that vulnerability and raw honesty…

are two way streets…

and that those who are broken…

can’t help to heal others in the same place.

So you step back into Core.

And breathe.

And agree with the 17-year-old ( Son #3)…

to type said thesis…

if he will submit his mind map.

 

While you’re typing away…

and randomly discussing really deep things…

you look over to see this…

and then this…

and you realize that life may go on.

Later…

with many pages still to go…

and Son #3 begging for a break…

you see that the punk…

has uploaded this last photo…

where he’s “pierced” with paper clips…

to one of your friends…

complete with text messages…

stating that he went out today…

and came home looking like this!

Her opinions are clearly expressed…

and you stop and realize still further…

that life will go on…

time softens the sharp edges of grief and pain…

and Uncle Tim is laughing.

It also rings true…

that nothing truly great is accomplished..

whether through learning or executing in life…

without solid…

open…

honest relationships.

Yep, we’re going to make it.
TeriSigMuch thanks and appreciation to Dr. Shanon Brooks for investing in both Rebecca and me to mentor us in Leadership Education principles this past week.  Your passion for these principles, and the use of them to invest in people is always humbling and something I personally never tire of listening to you teach about.

Shakespearience: Or in this case “A Shaking Experience”

A most sincere thanks for the Happy Birthday wishes regarding TommyMom.  You guys are the best!  In keeping with the “fabulous prizes” promise…

Today, I’m going to share a story…

inclusive of “moments or horror” or “situations gone wrong.”

Let’s face it…

we all have them.

I find it therapeutic to be vulnerable…

whether we are ready…

willing…

and able.

Or sometimes not.

It keeps us both humble and real.

Compassion is not one of my greater strengths.

I can be empathetic…

sincere…

pretty unconditionally loving…

but bring compassion into the gig and well…

not so much.

To be clear…

here is the definition:

“Sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others.”

Keep that in mind…

as I now bare my soul.

Warning: This situation isn’t overly pretty.

Twice now…

we have had the pleasure of attending this event.

After today…

you will clearly see…

that for our family…

“California’s number one field trip…”

took on a whole new meaning!

Said event…

is roughly 3 hours from our home…

and of course…

by year 2…

erroneously thinking…

that I was somehow qualified…

I volunteered to chaperone.

Which translates into…

“get there even earlier and look informed.”

The premise…

is that you will see vignettes…

of several Shakespeare plays…

performed by professional actors.

It is quite impressive.

 

It provides the inspiration necessary….

to cause individuals…

to enthusiastically embrace each and every play…

wanting to learn more.

 

Well…

most individuals.

This kid…

by nature…

is extremely easy-going.

A steady Eddy.

Rarely, if ever phased.

On this action-packed morning…

he quietly confessed…

“Um, Mom…

I’m having diarrhea.”

Me: ” Are you sure?

( How moronic can one seemingly-seasoned mother be?

Read on.)

We’ll stop and get you some medicine.”

#4: “Shouldn’t I maybe stay home with Grandma?

I mean, this is a 3 hour drive.”

Me: “You’ll be fine. Trust me.

Besides…

we’ve already purchased your ticket.”

Lacking in Compassion maneuver #1.

Standing outside of Rite-Aid…

I coaxed the children’s version of Imodium…

passed his unsuspecting lips.

He gulped several times before completely swallowing.

#4, complete with pained look of shock: “What WAS that?!”

Me: “Children’s remedy for diarrhea. It even has a minty flavor!”

#4: “Have you ever tasted it?!  It’s awful!”

Shows me his teeth very dramatically….

“Do I have hair on my teeth?”

Me: “Don’t be ridiculous.”

#4: “Is the enamel still there?”

Me: “Get in the car, please.  We need to be on time.”

Manuevers #2 and #3 combined.

The directions clearly stated…

to repeat this transaction…

every 30 minutes…

“until relief was found.”

I was watching the clock…

administered dose #2…

mission accomplished.

#4 is ashen, but resting.

As we approach Fwy. #2…

the next 3o minute interval approaches.

Sons #1,2,3 and 5…

are all sound asleep.

I passed the hemlock  Imodium back.

#4: “Mom, please.  I think this potion has killed people.”

Me: “Just plug your nose and down it, brother.”

What number are we on? Sigh.

#4: “I simply can’t.  It’s vile.”

As he attempts…

that dreaded…

vulgar..

yet unmistakeable-to-all-humankind sound…

begins to rise from deep within his being.

In fact…

quite possibly from his poor toes.

And seconds later…

you guessed it!

Sons #1 and #3 are upright, erect…

and totally coherent…

in the middle seat.

(Or in this case, death position.)

#1: “HOLY CRAP!…Did someone VOMIT?!”

#2: VOMIT!, VOMIT!….WHERE?!

#4 is now crying, because he’s guilty as charged.

Me: “EVERYONE CALM DOWN.”

# 54, quite possibly.

#3: ‘ROLL DOWN THE WINDOWS IMMEDIATELY…

OR I MAY BECOME SYMPATHETIC-BY-SCENT!”

#1 to #3: “FORGET THAT!  IS THERE ANY ON MY SWEATSHIRT?  LOOK CLOSELY!”

Hero Hubby…

who is rarely along on these outings…

and driving…

having zero clue…

that the rear window behind him is in disrepair…

obliges.

We are now doing 85…

all windows are down…

and the children…

are sounding intermittent…

in the newly-induced wind vortex.

Unison: “D-A-A-A-D.”

Hero Hubby ( HH): “A-A-R-E  T-T-H-E-Y  C-C-A-L-L-I-N-G  M-M-E?”

Me: “T-T-H-E-Y-’R-E  T-T-R-Y-I-N-G  T-O  I-N-F-O-R-R-M  Y-O-U  A-BOUT  THE  W-W-I-I-N-D-OW.”

HH: “WHAT W-I-I-N-N-D-O-O-W?

Through sign language and manual teamwork…

the window miraculously closes.

We pull off and signal the family following.

We’ve heard nothing from Son #2…

up until this point.

In a deserted not-yet-open Lowe’s parking lot…

he steps gingerly from the Excursion.

There he stood…

absolutely covered in mint-green Imodium..

from the waist down…

in his socks…

which could easily have been rung out.

Get ready…

here’s the Leadership example of all time…

uttered from my lips…

“Where are your shoes?”

Yes…

we are that family.

Pathetic…

isn’t it?

People…

at times falsely pedestalized…

are mere mortals…

with “feet of clay Imodium.”

Son #2, with a leveled gaze and eerily calculated tone…

“WELL, MADRE.  I DECIDED TO SLEEP.

I TOOK MY SHOES OFF…

PUT THEM UNDER SAID SEAT…

SWUNG MY LEGS UPON THE LAP OF #4…

WHO GENEROUSLY OFFERED…

AND THE REST IS HISTORY.

I THINK, QUITE POSSIBLY…

WE SHALL BE LATE.”

Two-mothers-of-ten-kids-between-them…

race to a nearby Target…

and could easily be mistaken…

for an episode of “Shopping Cart Wars”…

while racing at break neck speeds to obtain…

Industrial carpet cleaner…

Febreeze…

new jeans for #2…

and socks for #2 and #4.

Upon returning Hero Hasmat Hubby…

(Lowe’s is now open, praise Jesus!)

emerges from a suspiciously sparkling…

outstandingly clean…

“spring fresh scent” laden vehicle.

HH: “Get in.  I’m all done.

Send #2 into the restroom quickly to change.

I think I can still make it.”

We arrived 20 minutes late.

That, my friends, is a feat on record!

Leadership Education…

fosters and encourages the ever-present emergence…

of threads of similiar patterns and thoughts.

It applauds the ability to connect ideas and concepts together…

that perhaps bring new or further enlightenment into every subject.

Two months later…

I was reading a George Washington biography to #4 and #5…

that is age appropriate.

I was thrilled when it mentioned…

his friend, Cincinnatus.

Excitedly…

I ran for the college-level text…

painstakingly written by William Durant…

in which he chronicles the retirement exploits…

of Washington’s friend.

“Cincinnatus was content to withdraw to his farm…

where he dabbled in husbandry…

extensive pharmaceutical endeavors…” ( paraphrased by me)

That…

was all the further I got.

Stricken, #4 inquired in a high, somewhat fraught tone…

“Did he, by chance, invent Imodium?”

I had to leave the room.

Share something that became disastrous for you.  Share freely.  No condemnation.  After all, it’s smooth sailing after this particular expose’!

The winning number will be chosen next Wednesday, by Random.org.  What will the winner receive?  A succinct overview biography of Mother Teresa, fully illustrated, along with affirmation cards in a ceramic stand.  Imodium not included.  Yes I have my own copies of both, thanks.

Son #4 is very well adjusted, refuses to even look at Imodium, and just saw his first full Shakespeare stage play since this incident.  Son #2 still sports the jeans.  Thanks for wondering.

It’s your turn.
TeriSig

 

 

 

 

 

 

Picnics, Plays, and CSAs, conclusion

“The most powerful weapon on earth is the human soul on fire.”
— Field Marshal Ferdinand Foch

As promised…

here are amazing photos of Sara’s passion…

in action every week.

I should state, that following the Outing to the Lake…

Sons #2 and #3…

went to see yet another tragedy…

Romeo and Juliet.

I took #4 and #5…

to a delightful performance of…

“The Music Man.”

In fact…

it was one of the best I’ve ever seen.

I simply love that Cedar affords us this cultural opportunity…

along with the exposure we are given to the Patterson’s passion…

of delivering up food for consumption in it’s purest form.

Remember Monday, when I talked about BMWs and Mercedes in our area?

Well…

they do, in fact, roll up to Red Acre Farm…

along with every loyal resident shareholder.

Sara serves portions of the acting troupe…

that are with the Shakespearean Festival.

Every Wednesday…

she and her folks are up extra early…

to prepare for share day.

They aren’t shy about putting any and everyone to work.

We loved it!

And yes, I realize that personally…

I am a pathetic excuse for country living!

thank you for noticing.

But at least my job …

of stacking eggs…

looked good in the end.

Watching the variety of individuals come and go…

and having the chance to talk with them regarding what they loved…

about participating in the CSA was so very interesting.

Loving people helps, of course…

but there is so much to offer one another…

from our experiences in life…

if we will seek out mentors and teachers.

Sons #4 and #5…

were delighted…

when the “real Marian the Librarian” arrived…

to gather her shares…

and they got a hug and conversation…

about their all time favorite parts of The Music Man!

Son #2…

had an opportunity to speak with Romeo…

and then, for him…

one of the highlights of his year unfolded.

Up rolled “one of those cars”…

and out stepped Elijah.

Elijah was in Cedar…

for what he affectionately referred to…

as his “Summer of the Kings.”

He played “Richard III” and Theseus and Oberon…

in a “MidSummer Night’s Dream.”

He asked Son #2 how he had enjoyed “Richard III.”

And Son #2 told him!

I was blown away…

as I witnessed an incredible interaction.

Here was the professional…

gently yet passionately interacting…

with the youth that has studied…

read and studied some more.

Son #2 is driven daily…

to explore Shakespeare on so many levels.

And on this particular day…

during a shareholders pick up…

it showed.

Every question Elijah posed…

every actor’s interpretation he inquired about…

Son #2 responded to…

and did so intelligently.

They discussed history…

performance…

engaging an audience effectively for hours…

and love of the art.

Son #2 reveled in explanations…

observations…

and soaked up the generously offered experience.

I never tire of seeing this phenomenon…

that  has so very little to do with me…

and is such an incredible privilege.

People own and drive their passions…

for Shakespeare……

for growing and producing…

pure, organic, wholesome sustenance…

for life.

The mentors merely provide an environment for the inspiration.

The rest is up to the individual student.

At one point…

a rather star struck and well meaning woman…

came up and interrupted…

feeling the need to explain both herself and the play.

I shall never forget what Elijah said…

“M’am…this young man doesn’t need clarification.

He owns this.  It is in his soul.  What we are discussing…

are the finer points for how you communicate that ownership…

and let it out in the best possible way so the world can benefit.”

This, is the essence of Leadership Education beautifully spoken.

Elijah gifted Sara and Son #2…

with prime seats to his performance that evening in Midsummer.

Eventually…

following many more lovely interactions…

we packed up…

went to the Farmer’s Market…

and then on to the green show…

where you may picnic on the lawn.

Passion.

It was time for the Pattersons to exercise theirs.

We were the benefactors…

while people looked on.

No detail was spared…

from pewter dinnerware…

down to fresh mint in the cups!

Passion driven calling…

regardless of where it is in life…

always ends up feeding…

nurturing…

and at times, even healing…

the human soul.

There is such a need in this weary world.

This weekend…

I hope you spend some time…

thinking about and cultivating yours.

I’m convinced the world needs it…

no matter how diverse it may seem…

and regardless of where it lies.

TeriSig

Picnics, Plays, and CSAs, part 2

A great thing about rolling into the Patterson’s…

is the fact that you can feel yourself relax on many levels.

It’s just far enough away from town…

to afford many opportunities where…

you’ll simply have to make do in order to avoid an unnecessary trip.

And underneath many peaceful moments…

is an ever present sense of urgency…

for work that simply can’t be left undone…

and the need to prepare for the shareholder day…

that is coming up in Sara’s CSA.

Sara is the youngest of Lynn and Symbria’s children…

and the only one still living at home.

She’s 16…

and runs a very busy year-round business…

growing as well as supporting other local growers…

and producers of agricultural products.

Sons #2 and #3…

attended the theater the first evening…

to view Shakespeare’s tragedy and historic piece…

Richard III.

Lynn surprised Sons #4-#5…

with…

marshmallow roasting…

which turned into S’mores…

and an outside sleepover.

Son #5 lasted 40 minutes…

and was downstairs in the guest bedroom with me…

where we listened together to crickets…

misguided roosters crowing…

and laid in a darkness together that was thick and deep.

The following day…

Sara was up extra early…

and had prepared a gourmet picnic for us…

which we took to the lake.

 

The scenery and ambiance…

were not only breathtaking…

but a balm for the soul.

The retail opportunities however…

were a “rural” tipping point.

Yes, I realize I need to get out more…

and expand my vision.

However….

please allow these next photos to speak volumes.

In case you missed the first sign…

Oh.my.word.

It’s the wagon wheel out of “When Harry Met Sally”…

and I was watching over my shoulder for John Candy…

from the movie “Uncle Buck!”

Check out this designated employee area…

complete with Buck!

Inquiring minds wanted to know…

so I picked up a brochure.

It read…

“in order to maintain the natural ambiance…

blow dryers are forbidden in cabins.”

I am definitely out as a potential customer!

Symbria, raised in Los Angeles…

has a charming way of reverting to a big city mindset…

and was rolling!

Let me close today with these thoughts…

which struck me while experiencing this particular day.

Sara’s meal was extraordinary.

The difference between her meal and any other…

was the fact that she raised the chicken…

killed and plucked the chicken…

and then cooked it!

The ingredients in the side dishes…

were planted and nurtured to fruition…

by her as well.

Even the potato chips were homemade!

En route to our adventures…

Sara negotiated pricing on lemongrass…

and fruits and vegetables with local growers…

that she herself didn’t offer.

She has provided leadership for a downtown grower’s market…

that meets weekly.

Sara understands food sources and the value of knowing…

exactly where they are coming from.

She equates a vital piece of the maintaining of freedom…

with personal land ownership.

She is amazing!

And who am I…

to define educational parameters…

that exclude life experience and knowledge at these levels?

So very many people are simply ignorant…

to these skill sets that tend to be drowned out…

and negated by progression and technology.

Sara provides opportunities for not only educating one’s self…

but partaking of organic, wholesome nourishment…

and celebrating while also encouraging…

community commitment and involvement on so many levels.

Tune in on Friday to see her in action!
TeriSig

Picnics, Plays, and CSAs, part 1

” I think our governments will remain virtuous for many centuries as long as they remain chiefly agricultural; and this will be as long as there shall be vacant lands in any part of America.  When they get piled upon one another in large cities as in Europe they will become corrupt as in Europe, and go to eating one another as they do there.” ~ Thomas Jefferson, letter to James Madison, December 20, 1787

The week following my nephew’s wedding

Sons #2-#5 and I took a road trip.

Granted…

it wasn’t perfect timing…

we were all still very tired from our recent festivities…

but as is the case with most everything worth having in this life…

very little is born of convenience or perfect timing.

And we were on a mission.

Well…

two actually.

Number one was to have a visit…

with our dear friends the Pattersons…

where we bond with nature…

and reacquaint ourselves with the earth…

and also…

to attend this festival…

located on the campus of Southern Utah University…

in the city of Cedar.

This is conveniently the Patterson’s city as well!

Road trips were commonplace during my childhood…

and to this day offer up tremendous memories.

Now, most travel consists of airplane terminals…

assigned seats and the relatively quick time frame…

it takes to reach a destination.

One reason I love riding along for hours with my kids…

is the opportunity that we have to talk…

laugh…

discuss…

listen to music…

read…

and sight see.

Las Vegas is always the last major city…

before our final destination…

where we gawk at the latest billboards…

show opportunities, glitz and glamor.

It reminds us of home.

 

My kids have always been city slickers…

and Southern Californians to boot!

Utah offers the grandeur of incredible parks…

roadside scenery…

and opportunities to experience a down-to-earth…

community-oriented feeling offered in small towns.

Here is but one example:

This restaurant…

isn’t in our community.

Nor is it anywhere between our community and Los Angeles.

Convertible BMWs, Mercedes, and Porsches…

go to the Country Club for lunch.

The boys know we’re definitely not in Kansas Southern California any more.

I love the diversity as well as the lack of pretense.

One of my personal saving graces, however…

is that Symbria Patterson grew up in Southern California…

so I’m never without a “big city mentality” kindred spirit…

no matter how much benefit I see to country dwelling…

which is amazing, and has so very much to teach.

Character is forged in cultivating the earth…

where you submit, learn, and in turn, it cultivates you as well.

I know this…

education is so often defined these days…

by scope and sequence, supposed mastery…

and the ability to take tests well.

These seem to have become…

along with many other activities and things…

the definition of what is real and important.

That, in and of itself, can be rather pretentious on many levels.

Several years ago…

AOL ran a survey within America…

asking its people who the Top 100 Americans have been influentially speaking…

over the course of its history.

When the month-long stats were tallied…

George Washington won the coveted #1 position hands down.

Here is something he observed…

“I know of no pursuit in which more real and important services can be rendered to any country than by improving its agriculture, its breed of useful animals, and other branches of a husbandman’s cares.” ~July 20, 1794

Part of the reason that I love these visits…

is the reminder it affords to both me and my children…

that life experience and also some of its basic skills…

are necessary to a well-rounded education…

and the eventual emergence of a true statesman.

I’ll see you Wednesday…

where we will continue to look at what we learned and experienced.

What do you intentionally work into your life that is out of your norm?
TeriSig

Game Giveaway and Question #2

There’s still time to win Constitution Quest!

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Here’s question #2 to give you a sneak peek from the actual game.

Just leave a comment and your answer counts as another entry.

True or False
Congress has the power to establish Post Offices and Post Roads.

Question taken from Constitution Quest

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