Feelin’ Good!

August 20th, 2010

Even though we’ve left the topic of tension behind ( it was really getting tense!)…Some more excellent comments and insights have been added.  And I’ve chimed in, per a couple of loyal reader requests, to try and settle the topic “once and for all!”…Which you know never “really” happens over here!  Check out the comments section…

The past few weeks have been insanely busy.

Actually…

I think I blinked in June…

and here we are.

How does this happen?

Two weeks ago…

I entered a “contest” on Facebook.

I was to state in 100 words or less…

what my “favorite feel good” movie was…

and why.

I have several of those…

but narrowed it down…

per the request.

I was notified last Tuesday…

that I was the winner…

of two tickets…

to the Opening Night…

of the “Feel Good Film Festival!”

It was located here…

on this boulevard of the same name…

in this historic theatre.

The Hero Hubby was already scheduled…

to work in Malibu all day Saturday.

With a bit of re-arrangement…

to our schedule…

I was able to procure a hot date…

with Son #2…

a reasonable hotel room close by…

and we were off!

Kristen Ridgway-Flores…

pictured here on the right…

(with a big hug for Laura-on-the-Left…

our new favorite Brit!)

co-founded the Feel Good Festival…

three years ago…

with her friend America Young…

as a purposeful way…

to combat all of the darkness…

and evil…

that pervades our daily lives.

The festival featured 64 films, including 14 features, 39 shorts, and 11 student films. Along with the films offered throughout the festival, highlights included a lively Opening Night intro from Host Cheryl Hines; a New Media panel “Why Web Series Suck” presented by the Hollywood Chamber of Commerce Community Foundation discussing some hot-button issues prevalent in the web community and highlighted by the world premieres of a handful of web series, an outdoor bazaar highlighted by “green” and health-oriented vendors, and nightly after parties in the Egyptian Theatre Courtyard. ~ The Los Angeles Times

We admittedly had other reasons to attend as well.

We are in love with this family…

that the “Hero Hubby” has known…

and grown up with…

pretty much his entire life.

Stephen married Kristen…

and makes his living in Hollywood…

doing “all kinds of cool things”…

most of which pertain to acting.

We hadn’t seen them in a long time…

and the “winning entry”…

provided opportunity…

and motivation all around!

I’ve told you before…

Los Angeles…

is quite a mecca of diversity…

and creativity…

without any room for doubt!

Need inspiration for a new hair style?…

look no further!

How about that special outfit…

or personal fashion statement?

(these shoes looked like real ruby slippers off of the Wizard of Oz set!)

There is simply no end…

to the people watching opportunities!

Ever wondered why most everyone…

is the “same height” in movies and television?…

Here’s your answer!

In addition to Friday’s Opening films…

We attended all day Saturday.

Many of them were simply brilliant!

This one…

was profoundly moving…

as well as thought provoking.

Entitled…

“That Doesn’t Look Like Me”…

it was the documentary…

of an artist that solicited…

other artist friends…

to go into a senior residence…

and paint or draw…

some of the individuals there.

They interviewed…

and got to know these people in the process.

As the credits rolled…

it was revealed…

that some of these beautiful individuals…

had since passed away.

There was also a challenge…

to engage in a community project of this nature.

We came out to…


some of the actual portaiture.

Powerful beyond belief.

It was an enriching experience!

We plan on going again…

should Kristen…

and her colleagues continue.

Here’s what Leadership Education…

has to say about this experience.

“Young people need to learn to think and lead before they start dividing themselves into campes of allies and enemies…A deep respect for all good ideas, people and organizations, and the ability to identify both the good and the error in all things is an important part of Transition.  This is where the child notices differences and draws conclusions that will either lead to a life of bias or respect…Leaders will remember lessons of Core and “trust the process,” knowing that its fruits are worth its labors.  And in the process, they will enjoy life, have a lot of fun, and learn to bring the best feelings and experiences into their lives.  Leadership can be challenging, but it should also be joyful.”~ Leadership Education, Oliver and Rachel DeMille, pages 170 and 266

We definitely had a lot of fun…

met some amazing folks along the way…

(hello again to Laura…

the exceptionally fun...

witty…

and “Brilliant Brit!)…

and definitely broadened our horizons…

while experiencing joy!

There is a lot of genius…

and amazing creativity out there..

floating around in the form…

of “the arts!”

How do you…

tap into them?

Through big city Productions?…

Festivals?…

Local theatre?…

High school performances?…

Regardless of the source…

I hope you’re tapping them…

to promote brain development…

deep thought processes…

and to build and strengthen…

all areas of learning.
TeriSig



Tension, The Conclusion

August 16th, 2010

Update: Alicia has been released from the hospital and is home; continuing to heal!  Thank you again for all of your thoughts and prayers on her behalf. Clearly a full recovery both physically and mentally is going to take time.

I’m concluding the subject of tension today.

This certainly isn’t meant to imply…

that it won’t always be with us.

Krista Blaxton left an amazing comment.

I encourage you to read it.

It beautifully sums up a portion of my intent…

in my decision to broach this subject.

You see…

when we don’t differentiate between problems and tensions…

we really sell ourselves short in the process.

This results in missing out on greatness…

both in ourselves…

and others.

When we see everything…

as a problem to be solved…

we often throw in the proverbial towel…

and give up entirely.

But when we learn to recognize tensions….

we can get better and better…

at making progress in our journey…

to lead effectively and with  impact.

And that’s all any of this really is.

A journey…

A process…

on the road…

to the development of leaders.

The reaching of God-given potential.

Let’s look at some final ideas.

A great place to begin recognizing tensions…

is to identify those…

that exist within your organization.

For our purposes…

we’ll assume that the organization…

is the family.

Another great step…

is to create terminology.

What we see as tensions…

how we will identify what we see…

and  consistently and effectively…

communicate that with one another.

Next…

You need to inform your core.

I love this one.

Within a Leadership Education context…

we could certainly see this as a double entendre!

The core group that you influence…

and that influences in return.

Again, in this case…

members of the family.

But it could also easily mean “inform your core.”

I took this as a serious challenge.

There are a lot of things that I need to assess often….

that have to do with my CORE!

And nearly every tension requires…

that you act from your core…

to identify…

analyze…

and address it!

An example?…

Well, this past week.

I desire to be real with all of you…

my virtual community…

but at the same time…

healthy tension would dictate…

that I not frequently “dump” on you.

We all have problems and adversity in this life.

And when I look at those that others own…

I realize much of the time…

that mine are small in comparison.

Then there is the tension between “sappy”…

and appearing calloused.

For instance…

In the case of Alicia…

I don’t want to dwell for too long…

on why tragedy ends…

in the loss of human life for some…

and the reinforcement of its truly fragile state…

and what a precious gift it is…

for still others.

Yet…

this really has a lot to do with “informing my CORE.”

For me…

I have to revisit those values at times like this…

and remind myself…

that I trust the Sovereignty of a loving God…

that I personally use the Bible…

to navigate the CORE of my existence…

and that there are many things…

this side of eternity…

that require faith, trust, and hope.

Otherwise…

I’d most certainly go nuts…

trying to “figure it all out.”

My point?

You must identify, inform, and develop…

A CORE based on strength and absolute truth…

or it becomes difficult…

to move on to other levels of learning…

with one hundred percent effectiveness.

Next…

Continually recognize and give value…

to both sides of tensions.

This is so important…

in the process of developing individuals…

that know how to think…

rather than conditioning them…

regarding what to think.

Another important aspect…

as those that you mentor…

grow and mature…

is to start watching…

how heavily you weigh in with personal bias.

I’m not talking compromise of  your core values.

Rather…

I’m encouraging the nurturing…

of time and space…

that is required to learn and hone the skill…

of knowing how to think independently…

as well as interdependently.

And…

at the end of the day…

don’t always allow the strong personalities…

within the family…

to win the day.

Finally…

Don’t think in terms of balance…

Think rhythm.

And remember…

there’s no doubt about it.

One of the greatest things…

that you can do…

for your family…

or organization…

is differentiate between…

tensions you will always need to manage…

versus problems that need to be solved.

Thanks for being here.

You’re all blessings to me…

and definitely help…

many times…

to bring relief to the tensions!

Until Wednesday,
TeriSig

Tension, part 2

August 13th, 2010

Many thanks and update: The outpouring on the part of TommyMom readers where thoughts, prayers and well-wishes are concerned for Alicia, have been both inspiring and overwhelming.  I cannot thank you enough. At the time of the last update, she and her parents are all exhausted.  She, of course, from the physical aspects of the accident itself; her parents from the enormity of finding out the details from her rescuers, that surrounded that accident.  They are so grateful and awed that she is alive.  Alicia will be starting physical therapy very soon; and has suffered a broken arm, severe concussion, severe laceration to the right leg, and burns.

Her mother and one of her sisters spent the entire day yesterday removing glass from her hair as a result of the impact.  It was actually in the form of dust!  They are hoping that she will be stable enough to be released by the end of this week to go home and continue recuperating.  Obviously one of the main concerns for the future, would be the psychological aftermath from a trauma such as this.  She was in the front passenger seat of the van that was hit.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers.  They are much appreciated. ~ Teri


I was speaking to a dear friend and reader yesterday morning…

that expressed how much the “tension” post was making her think…

and re-think many things.

“It’s like a huge adjustment, Teri.

To be able to access issues as “tensions” that shouldn’t “go away”…

versus “problems” that should be solved…

is a major paradigm shift.

I’m thinking about it.”

So…

We will continue to discuss some of this…

probably into part of next week.

Because I’m going to assume here…

(knowing full well what that can do to “U” and “ME”)

that you are all somewhat quiet…

because you are thinking as well.

I would encourage you to read the comments…

that have been left…

because they are good, solid thoughts.

As a refresher to Monday’s post…

Andy Stanley stated that if you “resolve” tensions…

that should be leveraged…

you create a barrier to progress.

I think  that it would be helpful…

to realize that the family unit…

is the foundational “organization” in any society.

One of the most significant steps, then…

would be to distinguish between the problems that need to be solved…

and the tensions that need to be managed.

Here are some questions that you can ask…

in order to determine these two categories successfully.

1.  Does this problem or tension keep resurfacing?

2.  Are there mature advocates for both sides?

3.  Are the two sides really interdependent?

You can see where defining these two environments successfully…

could lead to lots of progress!

Here are some tensions…

that present themselves to all of us…

Family Culture vs. Education

School vs. Education

Young, Inexperienced Adulthood vs. Mature, Experienced Adults

Micro-Managing vs. Effective Mentoring That Helps To Structure Time

Discipline vs. Punishment

Expected “Norm” vs. Quality Time

Your thoughts on these tensions…

or input of others?
TeriSig

Here is the picture of our current fabulous giveaway…

which will be announced next week sometime!…

So keep those comments coming!





Tension, part 1

August 9th, 2010

Feel yourself getting uptight simply looking at the title?

It’s not exactly a word that conjures up positive connotations!

This past Thursday and Friday…

I had the privilege of attending an incredible Global Leadership Summit.

It was telecast from Chicago.

The speaker line-up was simply amazing!

Jim Collins, Terri Kelly, Tony  Dungy, Daniel H. Pink, Blake Mycoskie…

and THE Jack Welch…

to name a few.

That’s right.

I’ve attended a lot of conferences in my day…

and this one is hands down…

THE best investment of my time and money EVER.

Another speaker was a gentleman of less renown in the secular world…

by the name of Andy Stanley.

Andy is the senior pastor of a church in Alpharetta, Georgia…

that has a weekly attendance of  more than 28,000 people.

He just turned 51.

The talk that he shared was not without huge epiphanies…

impact…

effectiveness.

It’s title?

The Upside of Tension.

This week…

all week…

we are going to talk about several of the things that he shared.

They are thought provoking…

conversation stimulating…

paradigm shifting…

principles.

And they couldn’t apply more…

to leaders…

and a Leadership Education environment.

I have thought so very much…

about what he had to say…

as it applies to my life as a wife…

mother…

mentor…

friend…

community leader.

Tension is defined in Webster’s 1828 Dictionary as…

1. The act of stretching or straining;…2. The state of being stretched or strained to stiffness; or the state of being bent or strained…3. Distension.

The premise is this…

Every “organization” has problems that shouldn’t be solved…

and tensions that shouldn’t be resolved.

Why?

Because in the resolve…

you simply create new tensions!

Real progress depends not on the resolution of those tensions…

but on the successful management of those tensions.

Here are an example of two tensions…

that we all  need to manage regularly.

Schooling…

which according to the 1828 is…

instructing; teaching; reproving.

And Educating…

which is…

instructing; enlightening the understanding, and forming the manners.

He went on to explain…

that “problems to solve”…

are often mistaken for the tensions in life…

that need to be leveraged and managed!

Talk about thought provoking!

This week…

it is my hope…

that we will engage in interesting..

thought provoking dialogue together…

about all of the ways that we could make progress…

as leaders and mentors…

if we will learn to distinguish between problems and tension!

So…

put on your thinking cap…

even start taking the time to write down examples of “tensions”…

and we’ll meet up on Wednesday to begin discussing!

Don’t hesitate to share these in the comments section!

It will most likely broaden our options!

See you Wednesday!

And no…

I didn’t forget!

This week’s giveaway is also courtesy of Christy Gandara…

at OneCreativeBug.

It is a set of two plexi-glass-like boards.

One is a “To Do” list…

the other is a “What’s Cookin’?” week day schedule- at- a-glance.

They’re convenient…

in that you use a wipe off Vis-a-Vis marker on each of them…

and start fresh both daily and weekly respectively.

They are decorated, of course…

and I will post a picture on Wednesday!

My brain has been going non-stop since Thursday…

and admittedly…

it is a refreshing change from my mouth…

is it not?!

I’m tired…

and I’ll see you Wednesday!

XO,
TeriSig

Happy Apps!

August 2nd, 2010

Three years ago for Mother’s Day…

I opened this.

I was stunned.

I nearly threw up.

And neither of these emotions was due to excitement…

of this I can assure you!

I am one of THE most technology challenged…

individuals walking…

sitting…

however you choose to look at it.

It’s almost mind boggling to those around me.

My kids frequently call my issue…

a “homeschooling moment.”

This is not meant as a compliment.

To make matters worse…

all 6 of the “men” in my life…

were looking on with a mix…

of joy and envy…

as I opened the package.

Yes, it’s true…

they had all decided…

that I should be the first iPhone owner…

in our family.

I seriously doubt…

that any of them have experienced…

a more paramount moment…

of insanity since.

With all of that being said…

My iPhone is indispensable.

I simply don’t know what I ever did without it.

It’s near-ability to vacuum and dust while whistling…

at least from my personal point of view…

is a never ceasing source of incredulous wonder on my part!

Perhaps I need to experience a more well-rounded life.

Or at least do something in “corporate America”…

for a reality check before I leave this earth.

I don’t know which side of this suggested equation…

would suffer more!

Since that fateful thoughtful Mother’s Day…

each of my three oldest sons…

and their father…

have entered the iPhone cult culture.

There are vast differences…

as to our level of allegiance…

to said cult culture.

For instance…

upgrade…

is something they do whenever a new model appears.

Me?

Why should I move “up”…

when I haven’t even fully utilized what I already own?

And apps?

Well…

at first…

I thought they were all saying “abs”…

and I couldn’t for the life of me…

figure out what was going on!

And since we all sync our phones…

on the same “port” or “dock”…

or whatever that dohickey…

thingamabob deal is…

I get everyone else’s “apps”…

that apparently…

they won’t make it through the day without!

For example…

there’s the “Bubblewrap App”.

Oh yes!…

when you’re “stressed”…

you simply begin to “pop” bubbles…

in the full screen of wrap!

Son #3 was quite proud…

to introduce me to this “seemingly necessary” life skill…

when we were running behind for an appointment!

Granted…

he felt better.

Especially…

since he managed to set a timer…

and watch me attempt to “beat the clock”!

Oliver and Rachel DeMille have stated…

more than once in recent months…

that social media…

will most definitely be a part…

of the Great Conversation for our children.

I am quite certain that this is true.

Imagine my thrill…

and yes, I am being serious now…

when I discovered a couple of “apps”…

that aid both young…

and not-so-young moms…

in using moments…

that “B. iP”…

(Before iPhone)

could’ve very easily been wasted.

I mean…

how many times are you “stuck”…

sitting…

waiting…

somewhere…

with literally nothing to do?

Oh yes indeed!…

that doctor’s “recheck”…

that should’ve been 10 minutes…

but ends up being one of those…

“he’s-had-an-emergency-and-we-know-you-understand…

one-hour-later” moments!

Or what about…

a “this-will-take-no-more-than-15-minutes…

once-we-have-the-part”…

at the mechanic moment?

And there you sit.

Because I love you…

and attempt to keep it real…

and somewhat cutting edge…

over here…

might I draw your attention to the following apps?

#1…

Flash Tables by frogameleon, ltd.

This app has great exercises!

You can set a timer…

or not…

depending on the proficiency of the child.

They choose the correct answer…

can do “all one number” exercises…

or “mix ‘em up.”

I distinctly remember shuffling actual paper flash cards…

when I was in school.

After I walked there in five feet of snow, of course!

#2…

Is the group of apps…

that are continually being added to…

in that well loved section of classics…

by none other than Dr. Seuss!

As you can see…

you have options here as well.

You can read…

be read to…

or hit auto play!

There are several to choose from in this genre, folks!

There’s this beloved holiday classic…

as well as this lesser-known work…


entitled “Gertrude McFuzz.”

Sons #1 and #2 are very well versed in this beauty.

It is about a bird with very little to offer in the way of plumage…

that compares herself to more decorated species…

and the lessons learned.

Son #2 used to state quite often…

during CORE and Love of Learning…

that he could be a Gertrude McFuzz…

but instead…

he would choose to be a “Lolla-Lee-Lou!”

This story became a part of our family culture…

that was revisited today.

Son #2 was stunned…

when I showed him the app…

and informed him that I would indeed…

be purchasing it…

for Sons #4 and #5.

He was speechless…

because there it was…

in his beloved iTunes store.

I think he may be calling Steve Jobs today…

to tell him how very clever his mom/mentor really is.

Or not.

Now, if you’ll excuse me…

I think that I will go and practice my “12s!”…

I don’t know about you…

but mine can always use work!

What social media do you use or need to use…

to perhaps begin modeling relevance and usefulness?
TeriSig



Reading: Fast or Slow? You be the Judge!

July 30th, 2010

I promised to announce another give away today on TommyMom

and I’m not gonna lie.

I would really, really, really like to pretend…

that I never offered to be generous…

and keep it for myself!

I’m deep like that from time to time.

Today’s gift is offered by Christy Gandara of One Creative Bug.

Christy is also a veteran reader here on TommyMom

but that isn’t why I love, love, love her.

She is one of the most generous…

joy-filled…

sincere…

individuals you will ever meet.

And…

she wrote this post for us…

so that the mystery…

of why Mother Theresa is not yet considered a saint…

could be cleared up once and for all!

I know that I personally slept better that night…

armed with her vital knowledge.

Christy has given us several goodies…

but what I’m giving away next Friday…

is a wall vinyl that says…

“That noise you hear is the sound of freedom.”

I love it!

Several people…

have brought to the conversation table…

that they are, in fact…

slow readers.

For them…

as well as others…

this appears to pose a challenge in Leadership Education.

Since one of our Keys…

is “Classics, not Textbooks”…

one would assume that reading is paramount!

I know that while I am a fast reader…

my brother, Tim…

makes Evelyn Wood look like a slouch!

I have witnessed him reading…

at a rate that has made me sweat…

and wondered…

how in the HECK..

he is retaining anything!

He does.

So do many others that walk amongst us.

There is a great read entitled…

“How to Read a Book”…

by Mortimer Adler.

It gives lots of food for thought!

I highly recommend it.

It is also full of suggestions and techniques…

that help you to improve your ability to read…

process…

comprehend.

However…

earlier this week…

I read this article

and was fascinated.

I value your opinions.

Hint: for those of you that perhaps don’t realize it…

if you click on the words “this article”…

you will be taken to it!

Just keepin’ it real…

and accessible.

After you read the article…

please leave your thoughts.

I have many…

but don’t wish to prejudice the audience!

Each comment left on TommyMom

between now and next Thursday…

regarding any and all posts and topics…

will be counted as an entry.

All prizes are chosen through random.org.

I look forward to hearing from you!
TeriSig


Is Anyone Taking a Poll?

June 9th, 2010

Let each citizen remember at the moment he is offering his vote that he is not making a present or a compliment to please an individual – or at least that he ought not so to do; but that he is executing one of the most solemn trusts in human society for which he is accountable to God and his country.

[Samuel Adams, The Writings of Samuel Adams, Harry Alonzo Cushing, editor (New York: G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1907), Vol. IV, p. 256, in the Boston Gazette on April 16, 1781.]

Tomorrow, the State of California will be engaged in a primary election.

Each citizen that is registered will be given opportunity…

to practice a privilege that is necessary and sacred…

to the perpetuation of freedom.

I have always wanted to work the polls.

I guess you could say that it is something on my bucket list.

Thanks to my dear friend, Dawn Austin…

Son #2, my mother, and I…

will be doing just that tomorrow morning.

From 6:15 a.m. until 8:45 p.m.

In order to be qualified to be a part of this process…

you must attend a training.

Enter Mr. Ed Thomas.

Mr. Thomas is retired…

but was employed as the Election’s Coordinator’s Assistant…

in our county by the registrar of voters.

They called him to come and teach our class.

Let me say…

that the three of us attending…

ran the full gamut of emotion.

Mr. Thomas is a delightful, passionate instructor.

He’s funny, too.

You know how there are “those years”….

when your candidate of choice doesn’t win?

And you fall into the media spin…

that involves nothing but sour grapes…

riddled with conspiracy…

corruption…

and despair?

I’m certainly not saying that some of that doesn’t go on in every political system.

What I am willing to say after attending this 2 1/2 hour training…

is that more than ever…

I believe that the Founding Fathers…

through Divine inspiration…

gave us the greatest “experiment” in government…

to ever grace the world!

I left there wanting to sing “God Bless America!

I was in awe…

and amazed at the checks and balances that are in place…

in order to protect the accuracy and sanctity of your vote.

For those of you that are wondering…

how you could ever come up with a “Scholar Project”…

tune in on Friday for some inspiration…

that can be taken from this opportunity!

It’s not as difficult as one may think…

or have possibly been led to believe.

In fact…

in honor of our freedom to elect those that we want to political office…

I’m going to extend the giveaway of this necklace…

until Friday.

This means that you have two more days this week…

to make a comment!

Or two…

or twenty!

Some of you are really in love with this necklace!

I don’t blame you!

I’ll be wearing mine tomorrow…

since we’ve got our supplies…

our manpower…

our opinions!

And regardless of whether or not…

your state is voting in the primaries June 8, 2010…

let’s all thank God…

for those that have sacrificed all…

so that we can express those opinions freely!

See you Friday!
TeriSig




It Works!

May 19th, 2010

There are a few key questions that are asked over and over where the Leadership Education model is concerned.  One would be “How do you do it?” which was discussed briefly on Monday. Another of my favorite questions that has come up over the years is this…“How do you know it works?” Often it was worded in some fairly unnerving formats.  For example: “What are you going to do if this doesn’t work?” “How will your kids ever make it in life?”  “Yes, but what are they going to DO with themselves?”…and on and on it went…and still goes from time to time.  Hint:  If you can “grow at least one or two up”, and they seemingly “turn out okay”, then the pressure does subside…somewhat.  But then, you will more than likely be considered “lucky!”

Today’s feature was written by a 21-year-old Leadership Education student.

He still is one.

And will be for life.

He has a love of learning that is voracious…

and has had the privilege of having some of the finest mentors available…

because he has sought them out.

The following is a paper that he recently wrote under the tutelage of one of his current mentors.

Dr. Shanon Brooks.

This student is fortunate…

not lucky.

He works hard…

seeks after truth….

has conversations with great minds…

and continues to trust a process that has afforded him some tremendous experiences thus far.

And judging by the thoughts that he has penned below…

I think it’s safe to say…

it works!

Many thanks to Son #1 for allowing me to raid the resources and fruits of his studies…


to bring you the following.

I hope you enjoy it!

Go ahead and leave him a comment!TeriSig

The American Problem

The Problems Facing the American public today are Egoism and Individualism.

Egoism is a passionate and exaggerated love of self, which leads one to think of all things in terms of himself and prefer himself to all. It springs from blind instinct and lacks virtue.

Individualism is a calm and considered feeling in which each citizen isolates himself from the masses and withdraws into the circle of family and friends. It’s most common in democracies and grows with equality. It springs from inadequate understanding, and causes an extreme loss of public virtue; which for a time is prosperous, but soon causes a loss of liberty and freedom.

Montesquieu describes public virtue as

“…the love of the laws and of our country.”

On the surface Individualism looks and feels like the right thing to do. When we focus on our family and friends we’re comfortable, rewarded and enriched. We see the results for our labor, and feel in control. We may have a better priorities and perspectives of our families, and ourselves; but we look down our noses at society, our community and our neighbors.

“A neighbor, not being an ally or an associate, since he is never engaged in any common undertaking for joint benefit, is therefore only a rival.” – Mill

The Result of Individualism on the part of citizens of a democratic society Tocqueville warns us, is anyone is able to control the public, people lose their rights by giving them away apathetically, and unknowingly without a fight, and tyranny is not far from taking over.

The Solution for our problems was put in place by the Founding Fathers.

“Man is a creature of habit. A thing that rarely strikes his senses will generally have but little influence on his mind. A government continually at a distance and out of sight can hardly be expected to interest the sensations of the people.” – Alexander Hamilton

“America uses liberty to combat the individualism of equality.” – Tocqueville

We as citizens can fight individualism with our unalienable rights given to us by God; and brought to light by the Founding Fathers.

They knew that we would be unable to take on all of it on ourselves, which is why we have elected officials. But they gave us responsibilities and duties as well, in bite-sized, grass-roots ways.

The right to association is key to keeping our government accountable and in check. We are allowed to assemble whatever form of group we choose to make that happen.

The right of free speech gives us the opportunity to voice our opinions about how our government should or shouldn’t act, without fear of punishment; and share it with others without restraint.

The right to vote gives us the chance to choose what leaders we believe would best represent our ideals. Not just for our country, but in our state and community.

We have a responsibility to use these rights, or else we may forfeit them.

Why God Made Moms and “Let’s Talk About It!”

May 10th, 2010

I certainly hope that everyone’s Mother’s Day was happy!

I have had an extremely fun-filled busy weekend…

that was somewhat “out of the ordinary” when celebrating Mother’s Day.

I will share more at a later date.

Today, in honor of mothers everywhere…

I would like to share wisdom that has been gleaned from second grade school children.

The following are several excerpts…

first the question…

and then the answers.

Many thanks to my dear friend, Joelle Mancuso for sharing these.

They are adorable.

Why did God make mothers?

She’s the only one who knows where the Scotch tape is.

How did God make mothers?

Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring…

What ingredients are mothers made of?

God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world…and one dab of mean.

What kind of a little girl was your mom?

They say she used to be nice.

What did your mom need to know about your dad before she married him?

His last name.

Why did your mom marry your dad?

She got too old to do anything else with him.

What’s the difference between moms and dads?

Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.

What does your mom do in her spare time?

To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

What would it take to make your mom perfect?

Diet.  You know, her hair.  I’d diet, maybe blue.

If you could change one thing about your mom, what would it be?

I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on the back of her head.

Even though the official day for mothers has come and gone…

we are celebrating and profiling motherhood and many facets thereof…

all month long here on TommyMom!

It is the least that I can do for this sacred institution.

Along with the commentary, there will be giveaways!

Don’t worry…

those will start to be profiled and highlighted beginning this Wednesday.

In the meantime…

know that your comments are already counting towards those fabulous…

generously donated prizes!

Keep ‘em comin’, folks!

Today begins our colloquia on TommyMom’s FACEBOOK page…

under the “Discussions” tab…

f0r the book “Dead Aid” by Dambisa Moyo.

Man, what a read!

Even if you are not entirely finished with the book itself…

(I still have a little bit to go)

please, please, please feel free to join us over there!

We can all stand to benefit from the input of others.

When you are quoting an area of the book…

try to include the page number if possible.

Feel free to chime in and post as many times in the day or week…

as you would like.

Or not.

We’re just starting this format…

but are so hoping that everyone benefits from it!

I know that the topic can be somewhat daunting.

I am no economics guru myself…

unless we’re talking really pertinent things to motherhood…

like…

“who got more ice cream in their bowl…because these don’t look even”…

or “how laundry has a multiplication factor that could swallow the world”…

I get it, believe me.

But remember…

we’re all in this together.

And we all have different strengths and weaknesses.

It doesn’t matter.

And we want to read, to ruminate, to chew…

on great thoughts, ideas, and concepts.

Doing that in the context of conversing with others…

adds that much more insight into great thoughts.

We don’t always have to agree…

with each other or the author.

But even in disagreement…

we grow, think and learn.

Many times…

more so…

than when we agree or totally understand.

If you read the book…

gleaned insights and greater understanding…

then we want to hear from you.

Oh, and you’re absolutely…

always welcome…

to “lurk” as well.

See you Wednesday…here

and hopefully several times between now and then…

there!TeriSig




I’m So Glad You’ve Asked…Now Please Get Busy!

May 3rd, 2010

This week, we are going to start a series that highlights “Mothers and Motherhood.” After all, the “big day” is next Sunday!

I think that due to the significance of both the position and its influence…

we will extend the celebration for an even longer period of time this month.

And…

give away prizes!!

I know, I know…

It’s music to your ears!

So fire up those keyboards and get ready to comment, comment, comment!

But for today…

a few “housekeeping notes” about our book colloquia, “Dead Aid.”

My profile of Dambisa Moyo on April 7th, generated a lot of interest.

It turns out that her book is quite interesting.

Compelling.

Thought provoking.

In the spirit of Leadership Education…

it has been decided that a book discussion on this particular work would be most beneficial.

It will build and further community…

make us aware of the “bigger picture” where aid is concerned.

Give us a subject to discuss that has been “propagandized’ to the maximum…

debated…

lauded…

you get the idea.

TommyMom has a Facebook page.

On this Facebook page…

an interview between Dambisa Moyo and David Frost has been posted.

It will take eight minutes of your time to preview.

On Monday, May 10th…

you are invited to begin openly discussing her thesis, Dead Aid…

on the discussion page!

Here are some of the FAQs that have been sent to me privately…

or asked of me face to face…

regarding this discussion.

I don’t have a Facebook page and I’m not sure I want to get one.  What should I do?  Won’t everyone that knows me “find me” on there and monopolize my life?

Facebook is nothing but social networking and media.

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that the internet will play a large part in the Great Conversation, where our children and grandchildren are concerned.

If you are really concerned about your name being on Facebook, you can always sign in as a user and dialogue anonymously.  “Facebook User” contributes to many a comment board.

For what it’s worth…

It is my opinion (which I am never afraid to share with you) that it is our responsibility to model a healthy, balanced use of this media for the individuals that we mentor.

Voyeurism in our society takes on many forms…

and every one of those forms involves a person with a free will and choice.

Imagine the opportunity to benefit personally from this discussion!

I’m busy.  Do I have to schedule a time to be on there “live” with everyone else?

No!  You can simply post your current thought or comment and come back whenever it is convenient for you…

to read what others have posted as well.

If you like, you can come and go as you please…

“lurking” or leaving comments as often as you like!

How simple is that?!?

No concern about appropriate time zones…

no geographical boundaries…

Do I have to practice Leadership Education?  What if I just love to read?  May I join in?

Come one, come all!  Do you have a brain?  Would you like to engage it in a worthwhile pursuit?

Welcome!

You’re getting the idea, folks!

We want and need you!

We’ll dialogue for as long as it’s interesting…

or “until the cows come home!”

So what are you waiting for?

Sign up for Facebook…

watch the video…

read the book…

We’ll see you May 10th!

There are many of us that are already really  looking forward to it!

And hey…

It’s F-R-E-E.

Thoughts?TeriSig



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